Believe it or not one of the biggest profitable markets bringing in a racking 220million alone last year happens to be "Dating"....all forms online, matching services,mixers and so forth. It seems everyone is after the one thing that cost nothing tangible to receive; Love....I myself experienced a newness in dating. By choosing to date someone recently divorced. Which comes with great challenges.Through a few recent studies of my own. I discovered a few helpful tips for the divorcee looking to date again and tips for the individual who decides to date someone recently divorced. Yes dating is work and part of having the "Successful Outcome" you hope for requires taking the time to equip yourself with tools which help you to better understand the potential mate
First, here are the tips for getting back in the game after a long retirement. Let's talk about how this year is going to be different. For those of you that are divorced, or recently divorced, I'm going to give you three dating don'ts to ensure that you have a different dating life this year -- a better dating life.
1. When you go out on a date, don't turn into the "poor me."Please don't bad-mouth your ex. Don't talk about how bad it is being single or about how frustrated you are in your life right now. Because the only people you're going to attract when you do that is other people that are in that victim mindset. Misery loves company!
Have a great attitude about your life. Wake up every single day and realize that you're single and it's awesome. You have an opportunity to finally do this over again and get it right. That's what being single is all about. It's the power of choice. You have the power to do this all over again, the power to meet a great person. Dating is not an opportunity to vent about your past and get angry.
2. Don't just rely on one source to date.Here's the deal: so many people rely on one source to date. They don't know how to be their own personal matchmaker. A lot of people would just put themselves on an online dating site, and that's it. That is only about 10% of the pie.You need to meet people out and about. You need to smile. You need to be friendly. You need to flirt when you're out and about. You need to go to parties. You need to ask your friends if they know anybody that they can set you up with.You need to become your own personal matchmaker.Don't keep fantasizing that the doorbell is going to ring and it's going to be the person that you've always been looking for, and they're going to say to you through the peephole, "Hey let me in, I'm the love of your life. I've got great take-out food and a bottle of wine. My GPS broke, otherwise I would have been here in 2009."Not. Gonna. Happen.
3. Don't spend any time with unsupportive people.It's very, very important that you go out with friends that are supportive of your quest. If you're looking to meet people, make sure you have friends that equally are looking to meet people. Don't go out with that Debbie Downer friend of yours with the poo-poo attitude that always wants to leave early or be somewhere else. (Don't even hang out with them!)You need a supportive group of friends. When you're out and about, you want to have a group of people that are on the same quest as you to meet the opposite sex, to find healthy people who enjoy themselves. It will make each nightly adventure more fun and less of a big, stressful ordeal.These are three quick tips that you can use to have a wonderful start in your new Single Life.
Tips for "The Single Dater" choosing to date an individual who has experienced "Divorced"
From the 'easy score' to 'damaged goods,' the recently eligible are frequently misunderstood. The fact is that nearly half of all marriages in North America end in divorce, so restricting yourself from this pool of singles seriously limits your selection. Herewith, six very large upsides to dating divorcees.
1. Under (Less) PressureTired of expectations hanging over your head like the Sword of Damocles every time you have a first date? You'll love dating a divorcee. See, they're in no rush to jump back into a heated romance. It's not that they aren't looking for love. It's just that they're not desperate to jump at the first thing that buys them dinner and a movie. Call it, "Once screwed, twice shy," but divorcees take their time getting to know you. How refreshing to talk with someone who actually wants to understand you as a person rather than with Mr. or Miss Hot-to-Trot who would rather swap saliva than stories.
2. Stop Wasting Your TimeThe formerly married may go slow with new love interests, but that doesn't mean they waste time with dead-end relationships. Divorcees draw from hard experience, which means they know when things aren't jiving and won't string you along until things go really sour. Instead, divorced daters tend toward honesty and offer up a quick goodbye. After all, one really messy ending is usually enough for a lifetime. "I don't have the time or patience to diddle-daddle with guys I know aren't a good fit," says Sylvie A. "I've done that, divorced that. The sting of an upfront turn-down may be hard for some to hear at first, but in the end everyone wins."
3. Be AppreciatedThe maritally parted know a good thing when they find it, and they fight to hold onto it. They understand that little gestures have the power to keep a spark alive and they believe that making their partner feel important and special can be the difference between relationship success and failure. Call it sweating the small stuff but divorcees have a way of treating you right. Your main goal is to be sensitive to their triggers and to their need to vent their frustrations. From time to time....Well speaking from experience. Don't limit yourself to the possibilities if he or she has an Ex.The Ex stands for Experience
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