COULD IT BE POSSIBLE THAT MEN AND WOMEN BOTH STRUGGLE WITH SIMILAR TRAUMA'S AFTER A BREAK UP?.....OR IS IT EVEN HARDER ON A MAN?

WELL LADIES THE FOLLOWING IS ADVICE THAT CAME FROM ONE MAN TO ANOTHER AS ADVICE ON HOW TO GET OVER YOUR EX WITHIN 30 DAYS AND MOVE ON....THERE HAPPENS TO BE DATING TIPS AS WELL. SO MY QUESTION LADIES TO YOU IS AFTER CAREFUL REVIEW OF THIS INFORMATION COULD IT BE TRUE THAT MEN DEAL WITH THE EXACT STRUGGLES THAT WOMEN COPE WITH AFTER A BREAK UP? YOU BE THE JUDGE ......READ THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION ...CREATE A CHECKLIST OF COMPARISON....THIS POST ISNT TO PROVE WHO'S RIGHT OR WHO'S WRONG...BUT AS AN INFORMATIVE REVIEW THE KIND THAT WILL BRING MORE COMPARISON TOWARDS THE OPPOSITE SEX....AFTER ALL I HAVE GROWN TO LEARN EVERY CLOUD HAS A SILVER LINING.

What I am going to say is radical.

The truth is that half measures do not work with break up recovery.

You have two options:

The first one is to nurture her memory.

You can go to therapy and spend hours talking about the way she made you feel.

You can spend months trying to understand why she did it.

After a while, all your friends will run away.

They will use words like pathetic and loser when they talk about you.

The second option is to get your full power back.

A break up is a battle situation.

It is a crisis.

You have been invested in this girl or woman for months, maybe years.

After you break up, you keep on giving. You get back nothing.

Your whole mind set needs to shift and be repolarised to one single priority: you!.

There is no soft approach here.

She is in your mind and it is killing you.

It is a self destructive spiral which annihilates your life.

Why? Because she is in your mind.

More! She has power over you.

You are not master of yourself anymore.

What you want is a new mind set.

The old mind set of the victim or loser is killing you.

You want to defend your life, your territory.

How to do that?

You radically shift the way you stand in it, wake up your survival instinct and get over it.

When you are not over it, you are under it, right?

Being under means carrying a useless weight which drains you and takes away your strength.

Why is that happening? You have no power. In fact, she does.

Here are some key mind sets you need to wake up in you. These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are dead!

• You are not a victim, you are a winner. In fact this break up might be the best thing which ever happened to you. Put it this way: you are free!
• She is gone and gone forever. You won't get back together. In other terms don't hope she'll change her mind. If you meet her by coincidence, don't see this as a secret sign that you two are meant for each other!
• You don't need her. This is an illusion. You are perfectly fine with or without her.
• You will meet new girls or women. Right now, she does not deserve the attention your give her
• Alcohol or drugs do not help. Getting drunk is the worst thing you can do. Drinking does not give you your power back. In fact it does exactly the opposite.
• You owe her nothing! A relationship is a temple with two pillars. If she takes off, consider yourself 100% free. Let it totally collapse. It's not your responsibility anymore.
• What she does is none of your business! You might believe you have rights? you don't! Simple as that. She does what she wants, when she wants, with whoever she wants. You have no control over that.
• Get real! There are many reasons she did what she did. Most of them have to do with fulfilling her own needs. Get real about who she is and what she wanted. Don't defend her.

Again, in a break up situation, you need to wake up your power and see this as a battle for survival. Soft approaches don't work! It is a waste of your precious time.

You have the power to force yourself into a new mind set. This new mind set gives you freedom, space and instant recovery. Sure, you won't get all the negative attention from friends and family (poor thing...).

The question is: what do you want?

This is about your own survival.

Do what it takes to express your full power.

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Strategies + Power kicks

The goal of this material is very clear!Give you all the tools you need to turn a break up into a life victory!
If your girlfriend or wife left you, this is the exact set of strategies you want!
In fact, what I give you is much more than a set of strategies!
It is a complete winning system which gives you your life back!
And yes! It is very simple and easy to use!
It literally takes 5 minutes to get it!
It is written in plain and simple language!
It only takes 30-60 minutes to go through this material!
No complex concepts!
It is packed with power and energy!

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Winning strategies for real break up situations!
We could spend days discussing concepts and ideas about break ups and guess what? It would not help you much!
You want practical tools! What you need are very specific new strategies to deal with key break up challenges!
Here are some of the situations I cover in depth and give you new refreshing strategies for:

• What are the key strategies to get your full power back?
• How to shift your mind from victim to winner.
• Why she might take too much place in your mind and how to "kick" her out of it.
• Why a break up is a battle for power and what to do to win.
• What if she calls you? Is it wrong to answer?
• What about meeting her? Is it wrong to meet?
• If you want to see her, how often should you meet?
• Does "No contact" really help?
• Is there a chance of you two getting back together?
• Why you might feel pain right now and how to get rid of it.
• What about guilt?
• How to let go of the dream and create a new thrilling vision for your life.
• How to react if she is dating someone else.
• What to do if she calls you every day.
• How to really get over her. What it exactly means.
• Why anger and frustration are okay and how to make sure they don't negatively impact on your life.
• How to easily make new friends and expand your social circle.
• Why staying away from alcohol and drugs is so essential.
• Is it okay to jump into a rebound relationship straight after your break up? Or should you wait? How long?
• Key strategies to stay healthy and avoid a self destructive spiral
• What about colleagues or team mates? Should you discuss you break up with them?
• Why??!!! How to find answers to your key break up questions.
• Was this relationship a mistake? What you must know about relationship cycles.
• The invisible story. Why you might still dream or think about her.
• How to release emotional pain and feel free again.
• Sexual needs. What are the best ways to respond to them now.
• Should you be friends with your ex? Can it really work?
• Yes! You can live without her! Here is why.
• How to empower your personal base and gain back control of your life.
• Why you want a coherent strategy to win this battle.
• You are not a victim! You are a winner! Here is why.
• And more!

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Answers!

Here are the some of the top questions this material will answer for you:

• How to wake up your power and find new sources of energy in you!
• What to tell her if she says you still have a chance.
• What is the first break up trap and how to avoid it.
• What to do if you asked her to leave but she keeps coming back to you.
• What if you must work with her every day.
• You did exactly what she wanted! How come she still broke up with you?
• What is the best and most direct way to reconnect with yourself?
• What exact role does a break up play in your long term destiny line?
• Why it is essential to remove all traces of her presence.
• How to easily reactivate your social life.
• What are the many sides of a break up and why you need to know about them.
• What are the exact keys you need to win a break up challenge.
• What you need to know about your energy and how she can steal it from you.
• What is the "no contact" rule and what exactly happens if you break it?
• How to deal with text messages and other ways she finds to get to you.
• Why it is essential to never discuss your battle plan with the enemy.
• What are your fighting skills and how to wake them up.
• What did you learn from your break up? - Why you want to find answers before jumping in a new relationship.
• Yes! It is possible to be single and totally happy! Here is why.
• Why she will always call you just when you get your life back on track.
• Why you want to stop talking about her.
• What is a psychic gap and why a break up is an emotional challenge you can win.
• Why did she leave? The exact reasons why women break up and how to avoid it happening again in the future.
• And more!

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More Answers!

Yes!

• What hurts me the most is that she now tells me he never loved me!
• I don't really want to speak with her - What if she calls me or runs into me?
• Give me a reason why I should not ask her back ever.
• I want her to feel what I'm going through, does that make me a bad person?
• Why you have to be very careful when talking about reconciliation.
• Why it is a bad idea to have sex with your ex.
• Why it is challenging to move on before you find answers.
• What you must do in the first week after your break up.
• What if you don't want to completely lose her forever from your life?
• Should you just cut off all contact with her?
• I was doing great until I accepted to see her again.
• How to get over your ex? - Defend yourself!
• Why your friends get tired of hearing about your break up.
• Why a break up is an emotional challenge and what to do about it.
• What you can do if you just broke up.
• Why suffer longer than needed from your break up?
• And More!

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+ Top 8 Strategies to multiply your level of personal power and get your life back

In other terms, what are the key mind sets you need to wake up in you? These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are done!

• What are the top 8 strategies to win a break up challenge?
• How to shift from victim to winner role and why so many men fail in doing just that.
• Why hope of getting back together can keep you stacked. Why getting back together does not work in 95% of the cases.
• Why you don't need her! You will discover exactly how to gain a new sense of emotional independence and enjoy it immensely.
• Why you will meet new girls or women! The simple pathways to reconnect with the dating world and succeed with women.
• How to stay away from alcohol and drugs. How to avoid the self destructive spiral (snow ball effect) and limit your challenge to its real size!
• How to forgive yourself and really move on. Why feelings of guilt or shame can hold you back and how to clear them forever. Why you owe her nothing.
• Why left over emotional, jealousy or controlling patterns could stop you from moving on. Why what she does is no longer your business and how to accept it!
• How to keep your two feet on the ground and shift from romantic dream to reality. How to face, accept and embrace reality and focus on the future rather than the past.

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Key strategies for divorce situations!

These are extra strategies focused on divorce challenges. A divorce has two sides: the emotional one and the legal one.

Here are some extra strategies to deal with more practical and legal aspects if you are in a divorce situation:

• Two sides of a divorce.
• Special strategies for divorce situations.
• Key divorce pitfalls.
• What if you have children together.
• Splitting assets.
• What are your rights?
• Can you be friends with your ex?
• How to relate constructively to your ex.
• And more!

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Key steps to reconnect with the dating world and be successful with dating new women

You'll need these as well to take new exciting dating steps:

• How to ask her out.
• Why women are attracted to confident men.
• What does it take to be good at dating?
• I told her I have feelings for her but she acts as if she did not hear it.
• How to deal with a crush.
• How to connect with a woman you like.
• How to break the ice.
• Where to start with online dating.
• How to be successful in dating sites.
• Trust your instincts.
• Post your profile online.
• What do women want?
• How to connect with new women.
• What if you are shy?
• Should you go online?
• And more!

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The target? Get your life back within 30 days!

Within 30 days, most men are able to get back 80% of their power.Imagine your life without feeling the need to contact your ex girlfriend or ex wife!
Imagine this extra sense of self confidence and inner power!
What I give you here are the direct strategies to make that shift + the motivation and power kicks to take action!
Take action now!

DATING TIPS :FROM WHO SHOULD PAY TO WHAT TO WEAR ON A FIRST DATE .....AND THE LOCATION OF THE FIRST DATE IS IMPORTANT WHEN CHOOSING WHAT TO WEAR

Let's go over some first date dress basics. Maybe you'll get lucky and I'll have an idea you haven't already considered. Any ideas on where you going on your first date? If you can, have a conversation with your date to find out where you're going. But be simple with your questions to make sure you dont' sound to controlling. This will help immeasurably, even if you can just get a sense of the formality of the occasion. A good tip is it's always better to be a little overdressed. We've all at some time or another ended up at the baseball game in a frilly, walk-in-the-park sundress, which beats hell out of going to see Itzhak Perlman wearing skateboarding pants (which happened to me once). --Editors Tip ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Good Date Movies For At Home Dates If you are still on your first few dates with a guy or girl, stay away from the serious dramas, bloody action flicks, and overly sad romantic (mushy-gushy) movies. Try sticking with up-beat, light hearted movies that are in the romantic comedy genre. He'll enjoy the comedy and you can enjoy the little bit of romance. See a selection of recommended romantic comedies that are great for first dates or newly dating occassions. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Advice On Shoes: Comfortable vs. Sexy Find out if you will be walking, and if so, how far. If the guy's at all exercise or nature oriented, double or triple the estimate he gives you and you'll probably come close to the truth. (And if he flat-out lies about how far the walk is, don't go out with him a second time. Use this estimate to choose the durability and support of your shoes, and if you aren't confident, pack along some cuter, (invariably less comfortable) shoes in a bag. The Little Black Dating Dress If you're having the classic dinner date in a place created to impress women on first dates, the choice is simple. There is no substitute for the little black dress (known in fashion circles as LBD). It is equivalent to the men's fashion outfit: the classic dark grey suit. If you don't have one of these must-haves, get out the catalogs, visit your favorite designer on-line and choose the version that suits you best. Add a purse, pumps and stole to match, and there you have it. For premium wearability, your LBD should be of medium length, and although the classic is sleeveless (meant to be worn with opera-length gloves), choose the sleeve length based on your comfort. The little black dress saw Audrey Hepburn's character through most of "Breakfast at Tiffany's", and there's no reason why you shouldn't wear yours to parties, first dates and anytime you want to feel absolutely classic. Vary your jewelry and accessories, and you can wear it to work, for lunch in the park, shopping with the girls and dancing with the boys (or the other way 'round, if you prefer). The Coffee or Lunch Day time Date If your date has read the advice columns that say to take the pressure off by having a coffee date or a daytime date, you can expect to dress more casually. In this case, it doesn't much matter what you wear (as long as it's neat and put-together), because you already know they guy is either nervous or non-committal. In the first case, you can graciously put him at ease: in the second, you can keep him guessing. Choice of the low-impact date does not indicate a man's potential as a long-term romance. Cheapskates and guys who aren't sure they want to "really" date will choose the daytime scenario because it's simple and cheap. They get exposure without investment. Nice guys and shy guys will choose this date because of its low-drama possibilities. They get to be with you without having to act like Cary Grant. Nice guys and shy guys will either up the ante or wait quietly in agony for you to express interest in seeing them again. Cheapskates will expect you to pay for your own coffee. Non-committal guys will say they'll call you, then won't. I want to add an aside about the coffee comment above. I struggled with this question for years, and paid for a lot of coffee (and dated several cheapskates) until I figured out the flaw in the feminist tao. You see, feminists are expected to buy their own stuff, and sometimes the guy's stuff too, in order to show how liberated we really are. The mindset is, if you're going to be "freer" than non-feminists, you should expect to pay your own way. The fact is, if you adhere to this policy, you will be less free than other women because you will have less money. The other important fact to consider is that women still earn about 60% of what their male counterparts earn. Until we're paid equally, men should always buy the coffee. There is a creepy idea (often unspoken, often assumed) that if a woman in not planning to become sexually involved with a man, she should pay half. If you ask me, that's selling sex pretty cheap. I say, forget all that crap and hang out with guys who don't have a problem buying your coffee and dinner or waiting until you're good and ready before making any moves on you. Besides all that, if you're dating because you're looking for a commitment, you want a guy who's going to be willing and able to pay on a mortgage, and later, for child support. His willingness to shell out $2.50 for a latte is a very slight indicator of his potential, but it's better than nothing. Who Should Pay on the First Date? Guy vs. Girl Although you shouldn't expect to pay for things on a first date, bring along plenty of available funding. At least enough for cab fare home. If you think he's the sincere type and you want to show that you like him (without saying anything scary like, "I like you"), you might add an element to your daytime-date outfit that you don't wear every day just to acknowledge that something nice is happening on this day. Wear a pair of pants one shade nicer than what you usually wear, or trade walking shoes for pumps. Don't make big changes in makeup, though. Men have definite feelings about and reactions to make-up, and if your face looks noticeably different, he will become frightened and disoriented. Wedding and Special Occassion Party Dates Part of the way we judge a potential relationship is by the events we attend together. In straight relationships, going to a wedding with a date is an automatic increase in that relationship's potential intimacy, if the man has invited the woman along. If the woman invites the man and he's not ready for the commitment of witnessing someone else's commitment, he will either decline, bail at the last minute, or attend with great discomfort and break off the relationship soon after. In same or opposite-sex couples, asking someone to attend a wedding with you is a bold maneuver to be taken on only if you're sure your relationship is ready for it, or if you want the other person to break up with you. (A sit-com scenario. Someone asks a woman, "What do you say if you want to get rid of a guy?" Her answer: "I say, 'I love you and I want to have your babies'". If you get asked to a wedding on a first date, you're either with a social inept, a potential stalker, someone who's been in love with you from afar for ten years, someone who thinks it'll be a good way to get laid, or someone who has nothing left to lose. For these reasons, I would not accept such a first date, eliminating the need for discussing what to wear at such a debacle. Dates to Baseball or Sporting Event Games Search Amazon.com Apparel for sexy dresses for women Jeans or chinos, a hat, layers, and bring a thick sweater if you live near the sea. Nothing too sexy, nothing that can't be washed if you have beer spilled on you or if you sit in gum. The Sleaze Factor: Don't Dress Too Sexy It's tempting to dress as sexy as the magazine models, but in the harsh light of day or the romantic candlelight of evening, it rarely works out that way. Sexy has a way of turning sleazy when you least expect it. The artistry of dressing to impress means utilizing restraint, so save the micro-minis and see-through tops for those rumpus-filled evenings at home and opt for looking pretty in public.   Bookmark this beauty articleEmail this article to a friend