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COULD IT BE POSSIBLE THAT MEN AND WOMEN BOTH STRUGGLE WITH SIMILAR TRAUMA'S AFTER A BREAK UP?.....OR IS IT EVEN HARDER ON A MAN?

WELL LADIES THE FOLLOWING IS ADVICE THAT CAME FROM ONE MAN TO ANOTHER AS ADVICE ON HOW TO GET OVER YOUR EX WITHIN 30 DAYS AND MOVE ON....THERE HAPPENS TO BE DATING TIPS AS WELL. SO MY QUESTION LADIES TO YOU IS AFTER CAREFUL REVIEW OF THIS INFORMATION COULD IT BE TRUE THAT MEN DEAL WITH THE EXACT STRUGGLES THAT WOMEN COPE WITH AFTER A BREAK UP? YOU BE THE JUDGE ......READ THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION ...CREATE A CHECKLIST OF COMPARISON....THIS POST ISNT TO PROVE WHO'S RIGHT OR WHO'S WRONG...BUT AS AN INFORMATIVE REVIEW THE KIND THAT WILL BRING MORE COMPARISON TOWARDS THE OPPOSITE SEX....AFTER ALL I HAVE GROWN TO LEARN EVERY CLOUD HAS A SILVER LINING.

What I am going to say is radical.

The truth is that half measures do not work with break up recovery.

You have two options:

The first one is to nurture her memory.

You can go to therapy and spend hours talking about the way she made you feel.

You can spend months trying to understand why she did it.

After a while, all your friends will run away.

They will use words like pathetic and loser when they talk about you.

The second option is to get your full power back.

A break up is a battle situation.

It is a crisis.

You have been invested in this girl or woman for months, maybe years.

After you break up, you keep on giving. You get back nothing.

Your whole mind set needs to shift and be repolarised to one single priority: you!.

There is no soft approach here.

She is in your mind and it is killing you.

It is a self destructive spiral which annihilates your life.

Why? Because she is in your mind.

More! She has power over you.

You are not master of yourself anymore.

What you want is a new mind set.

The old mind set of the victim or loser is killing you.

You want to defend your life, your territory.

How to do that?

You radically shift the way you stand in it, wake up your survival instinct and get over it.

When you are not over it, you are under it, right?

Being under means carrying a useless weight which drains you and takes away your strength.

Why is that happening? You have no power. In fact, she does.

Here are some key mind sets you need to wake up in you. These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are dead!

• You are not a victim, you are a winner. In fact this break up might be the best thing which ever happened to you. Put it this way: you are free!
• She is gone and gone forever. You won't get back together. In other terms don't hope she'll change her mind. If you meet her by coincidence, don't see this as a secret sign that you two are meant for each other!
• You don't need her. This is an illusion. You are perfectly fine with or without her.
• You will meet new girls or women. Right now, she does not deserve the attention your give her
• Alcohol or drugs do not help. Getting drunk is the worst thing you can do. Drinking does not give you your power back. In fact it does exactly the opposite.
• You owe her nothing! A relationship is a temple with two pillars. If she takes off, consider yourself 100% free. Let it totally collapse. It's not your responsibility anymore.
• What she does is none of your business! You might believe you have rights? you don't! Simple as that. She does what she wants, when she wants, with whoever she wants. You have no control over that.
• Get real! There are many reasons she did what she did. Most of them have to do with fulfilling her own needs. Get real about who she is and what she wanted. Don't defend her.

Again, in a break up situation, you need to wake up your power and see this as a battle for survival. Soft approaches don't work! It is a waste of your precious time.

You have the power to force yourself into a new mind set. This new mind set gives you freedom, space and instant recovery. Sure, you won't get all the negative attention from friends and family (poor thing...).

The question is: what do you want?

This is about your own survival.

Do what it takes to express your full power.

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Strategies + Power kicks

The goal of this material is very clear!Give you all the tools you need to turn a break up into a life victory!
If your girlfriend or wife left you, this is the exact set of strategies you want!
In fact, what I give you is much more than a set of strategies!
It is a complete winning system which gives you your life back!
And yes! It is very simple and easy to use!
It literally takes 5 minutes to get it!
It is written in plain and simple language!
It only takes 30-60 minutes to go through this material!
No complex concepts!
It is packed with power and energy!

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Winning strategies for real break up situations!
We could spend days discussing concepts and ideas about break ups and guess what? It would not help you much!
You want practical tools! What you need are very specific new strategies to deal with key break up challenges!
Here are some of the situations I cover in depth and give you new refreshing strategies for:

• What are the key strategies to get your full power back?
• How to shift your mind from victim to winner.
• Why she might take too much place in your mind and how to "kick" her out of it.
• Why a break up is a battle for power and what to do to win.
• What if she calls you? Is it wrong to answer?
• What about meeting her? Is it wrong to meet?
• If you want to see her, how often should you meet?
• Does "No contact" really help?
• Is there a chance of you two getting back together?
• Why you might feel pain right now and how to get rid of it.
• What about guilt?
• How to let go of the dream and create a new thrilling vision for your life.
• How to react if she is dating someone else.
• What to do if she calls you every day.
• How to really get over her. What it exactly means.
• Why anger and frustration are okay and how to make sure they don't negatively impact on your life.
• How to easily make new friends and expand your social circle.
• Why staying away from alcohol and drugs is so essential.
• Is it okay to jump into a rebound relationship straight after your break up? Or should you wait? How long?
• Key strategies to stay healthy and avoid a self destructive spiral
• What about colleagues or team mates? Should you discuss you break up with them?
• Why??!!! How to find answers to your key break up questions.
• Was this relationship a mistake? What you must know about relationship cycles.
• The invisible story. Why you might still dream or think about her.
• How to release emotional pain and feel free again.
• Sexual needs. What are the best ways to respond to them now.
• Should you be friends with your ex? Can it really work?
• Yes! You can live without her! Here is why.
• How to empower your personal base and gain back control of your life.
• Why you want a coherent strategy to win this battle.
• You are not a victim! You are a winner! Here is why.
• And more!

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Answers!

Here are the some of the top questions this material will answer for you:

• How to wake up your power and find new sources of energy in you!
• What to tell her if she says you still have a chance.
• What is the first break up trap and how to avoid it.
• What to do if you asked her to leave but she keeps coming back to you.
• What if you must work with her every day.
• You did exactly what she wanted! How come she still broke up with you?
• What is the best and most direct way to reconnect with yourself?
• What exact role does a break up play in your long term destiny line?
• Why it is essential to remove all traces of her presence.
• How to easily reactivate your social life.
• What are the many sides of a break up and why you need to know about them.
• What are the exact keys you need to win a break up challenge.
• What you need to know about your energy and how she can steal it from you.
• What is the "no contact" rule and what exactly happens if you break it?
• How to deal with text messages and other ways she finds to get to you.
• Why it is essential to never discuss your battle plan with the enemy.
• What are your fighting skills and how to wake them up.
• What did you learn from your break up? - Why you want to find answers before jumping in a new relationship.
• Yes! It is possible to be single and totally happy! Here is why.
• Why she will always call you just when you get your life back on track.
• Why you want to stop talking about her.
• What is a psychic gap and why a break up is an emotional challenge you can win.
• Why did she leave? The exact reasons why women break up and how to avoid it happening again in the future.
• And more!

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More Answers!

Yes!

• What hurts me the most is that she now tells me he never loved me!
• I don't really want to speak with her - What if she calls me or runs into me?
• Give me a reason why I should not ask her back ever.
• I want her to feel what I'm going through, does that make me a bad person?
• Why you have to be very careful when talking about reconciliation.
• Why it is a bad idea to have sex with your ex.
• Why it is challenging to move on before you find answers.
• What you must do in the first week after your break up.
• What if you don't want to completely lose her forever from your life?
• Should you just cut off all contact with her?
• I was doing great until I accepted to see her again.
• How to get over your ex? - Defend yourself!
• Why your friends get tired of hearing about your break up.
• Why a break up is an emotional challenge and what to do about it.
• What you can do if you just broke up.
• Why suffer longer than needed from your break up?
• And More!

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+ Top 8 Strategies to multiply your level of personal power and get your life back

In other terms, what are the key mind sets you need to wake up in you? These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are done!

• What are the top 8 strategies to win a break up challenge?
• How to shift from victim to winner role and why so many men fail in doing just that.
• Why hope of getting back together can keep you stacked. Why getting back together does not work in 95% of the cases.
• Why you don't need her! You will discover exactly how to gain a new sense of emotional independence and enjoy it immensely.
• Why you will meet new girls or women! The simple pathways to reconnect with the dating world and succeed with women.
• How to stay away from alcohol and drugs. How to avoid the self destructive spiral (snow ball effect) and limit your challenge to its real size!
• How to forgive yourself and really move on. Why feelings of guilt or shame can hold you back and how to clear them forever. Why you owe her nothing.
• Why left over emotional, jealousy or controlling patterns could stop you from moving on. Why what she does is no longer your business and how to accept it!
• How to keep your two feet on the ground and shift from romantic dream to reality. How to face, accept and embrace reality and focus on the future rather than the past.

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Key strategies for divorce situations!

These are extra strategies focused on divorce challenges. A divorce has two sides: the emotional one and the legal one.

Here are some extra strategies to deal with more practical and legal aspects if you are in a divorce situation:

• Two sides of a divorce.
• Special strategies for divorce situations.
• Key divorce pitfalls.
• What if you have children together.
• Splitting assets.
• What are your rights?
• Can you be friends with your ex?
• How to relate constructively to your ex.
• And more!

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Key steps to reconnect with the dating world and be successful with dating new women

You'll need these as well to take new exciting dating steps:

• How to ask her out.
• Why women are attracted to confident men.
• What does it take to be good at dating?
• I told her I have feelings for her but she acts as if she did not hear it.
• How to deal with a crush.
• How to connect with a woman you like.
• How to break the ice.
• Where to start with online dating.
• How to be successful in dating sites.
• Trust your instincts.
• Post your profile online.
• What do women want?
• How to connect with new women.
• What if you are shy?
• Should you go online?
• And more!

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The target? Get your life back within 30 days!

Within 30 days, most men are able to get back 80% of their power.Imagine your life without feeling the need to contact your ex girlfriend or ex wife!
Imagine this extra sense of self confidence and inner power!
What I give you here are the direct strategies to make that shift + the motivation and power kicks to take action!
Take action now!

"Putting Boundaries into place... in order to Establish Heathy Relationships"

Let's first start with what are boundaries?...Boundaries are

plural bound·aries

Definition of BOUNDARY

: something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent

bound·ary·less \-ləs\ adjective

bound·ary·less·ness noun

Examples of BOUNDARY

1. Those two trees mark the boundary of our property.
2. The river forms the country's western boundary.
3. at the boundary between fact and fiction
4. You need to set boundaries with your children.
5. Did he violate the boundaries of the doctor-patient relationship?

Origin of BOUNDARY

First Known Use: 1598

Related to BOUNDARY

Synonyms: bound, limit, cap, ceiling, confines, end, extent, limitation, line, termination

The purpose of the boundaries within relationships rather that relationship is with your children, family members, friends or significant other are put in place to create healthy relationships. When there aren't boundaries you leave yourself open to be taken advantage of or to compromise your beliefs for the other party. Now there is a danger that takes place in boundless relationships.Most often those who have neglected to establish boundaries or in layman's term lines that can't be crossed. Those individuals who may suffer with issues of insecurities and self-esteem . And there may be someone reading this post, whom just may say ..."I don't have self -esteem issues neither am I insecure. Well, speaking from experience People who struggle with insecurities or  low self-esteem have the most major difficulties in relationships with others. This is because they are unable to establish healthy boundaries or limits with people. The reason, for this inability, is that with low self-esteem comes a variety of irrational thoughts, emotions and actions which leads people to lose themselves in relationships with others. This absorption of self into others leads to a loss of personal internal control. People with low self-esteem have a weakened "internal control" and become dependent on a strong "external control." They become victims to being controlled by how others think, feel  and act towards them. People with low self-esteem are dependent on others' approval and recognition and therefore fearful of  being rejected  by and conflict with others. It has been estimated in the self-esteem literature that over 90 percent of us are suffering from low self-esteem at one degree or another. Therefore most people in relationships are currently suffering from low self-esteem or recovering from it

The next thing I would love for you to evaluate is just how healthy are the current relationships in your life? Have you made sure to set these boundaries physically,intellectually,spiritually, emotionally and for some financially. Now after setting forth these boundaries, Just how effective are you in maintaining them. Have you allowed any of you individual relationships to become intrusive or persuasive. Causing you to compromise your boundaries and afterwards you use unhealthy, compulsive or addictive behaviors as a barrier or unhealthy boundary to protect yourself from intimacy with your relationship partners (i. e. significant other, family etc.)?...How well do you stay unhooked and detached when your relationship partners are working you over to lower your boundaries in the relationships? Does your inability to maintain healthy intellectual, emotional, physical and spiritual boundaries with your relationship partners frighten you? When you consider trying to maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships without the use of body weight, food or some other compulsive behaviors to protect and medicate you in the process, are you scared? Would you prefer to stay stuck in using your unhealthy distancing techniques than to work on learning how to establish healthy boundaries in your relationships? If the answer is yes to any of the above questions, than yes it's time you  strengthen your boundaries with your relationship partners to enrich or regain the health of your relationships.

Here are helpful tools you may use to evaluate the relationships in your life. You will need a pen and paper for this exercise: List the various relationships within your life. Example: My relationship with my children, what healthy boundaries have I set for them and in another column what unhealthy boundaries have I set for them and yes, there is such a thing as unhealthy vs. healthy boundaries. An unhealthy boundary with your child per say would be allowing the child to eat things that aren't beneficial for their health ( candy, junk food) excessively, by giving in to their cries or temper tantrums. Well, setting a healthy boundary in situations such as this would be upon their temper tantrum their should be consequences for unacceptable behavior.

The following are Characteristics of a Healthy Intimate Relationship
The goal in an intimate relationship is to feel calm, centered and focused. The intimacy needs to be safe, supportive, respectful, non punitive and peaceful. You feel taken care of, wanted, unconditionally accepted and loved just for existing and being alive in a healthy intimate relationship. You feel part of something and not alone in such a relationship. You experience forgiving and being forgiven with little revenge or reminding of past offenses. You find yourself giving thanks for just being alive in this relationship. A healthy intimate relationship has a sense of directness with plan and order. You experience being free to be who you are rather than who you think you need to be for the other person. This relationship makes you free from the "paralysing of analysis" needing to analyze every minute detail of what goes on in it. An intimate relationship has its priorities in order, with people's feelings and process of the relationship coming before things and money. A healthy intimate relationship encourages your personal growth . It isn't intimidated by your individuality but supports your individuality. This relationship does not result in you or your relationship partner becoming emotionally, physically or intellectually dependent on one another. An intimate relationship encourages the spiritual growth of both  partners and makes room for God in the relationship as a partner and friend. The relationship partners understand how to be sensitive to certain areas that could trigger hostility and anger. To maintain this healthy relationship, when issues arise discuss them. Be sure to use words that restrain from causing the other to become defensive. Such as, when this happened I began to feel as though______but most importantly how did it make you feel? By allowing both partners to share their feelings it strengthens the communication. Also, never address an issue unless you have a solution. Remember not to leave loose ends. It will only cause things to further become undone.

Use the following questions with your relationship partner(s) to discuss the issue of intimacy:
* Does our relationship sound, look and feel like this description?
* What factors impede our ability to have this kind of relationship?
If relationship partners, who are married, are not able to establish a healthy intimate relationship then they run the risk of not being able to establish a healthy sexually intimate relationship with each other.
* Is this true in our relationship?
* Do we have good times together, but fail at being emotionally, spiritually and physically intimate?
* Do we have an openly affectionate relationship with healthy emotionally based communication or do we just do things together, with no communication or affection giving?
* How important is it to you to have healthy intimacy in our relationship?

Wise Words

Between men and women there is more than  friendship. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, much more than friendship.
 -- Unknown

Relationship Quiz: Are You Emotionally Unavailable?

1. You know you have strong, sincere feelings for a new guy you're dating. When do you tell him?

  I never tell him because it never happens. "Strong, sincere feelings" are for suckers!

  I tell him the second I feel it, even if it's only been a week. I don't hold anything back

  Just to be safe, I wait until I get a sense of how strongly he feels for me.

2. When it comes to relationships, you tend to:

4. When you're seeing someone new and you've both been busy, how do you keep in touch?

 We're never out of touch. I call him several times a day and let him know everything that's going on.

 I'll try calling him once in the evening just to let him know I'm thinking about him.

 IM'ing, text messages and E-mail. I'm not very good at talking. It's too awkward for me.

5. Your new guy reveals that he wants to introduce you to his parents. What do you say?

 I tell him I'll consider it ... and then I never answer his calls again.

 If I really like the guy, I'll take him up on his offer. I want to see if he'll still have his hair when he's his dad's age.

 I've already met his Parents! I introduced myself as his girlfriend when we ran into them at the grocery store.

6. How do you feel about marriage?

 I've been planning the big day since I was four. Now all I need is Mr. Right.

 Marriage is not in my future. How can I settle on just one person for the rest of my life?

 It's something that's always in the back of my mind. I'll be happy when I find the right guy to make the   plunge with.

7. You've been dating someone for 6 months. One night over dinner he says he loves you. How do you react?

 If it felt right, I'd say it back. Chances are I feel the same after 6 months of being together.

 Finally! I've been saying it for 6 months already!

 I'd say, "Aww, thanks. Check please."

8. What has been your longest relationship?

 A little over 2 years. He seemed afraid of commitment, so I cut my losses.

 Six months, 1 week and 4 days - but who's counting?

 I don't really like the term "relationship."

9. In an ideal world, how old would you be when you settled down? 

 I would have married my high school sweetheart after graduation and avoided all of this dating nonsense. I don't have an ideal age for settling down. It'll happen when it does.

Well, I mean ... I don't know ... maybe ... uh, never.

10. What is your idea of the perfect boyfriend?

 Someone who gives me my space and doesn't always ask where our relationship is going. Ugh, I hate that! Someone who is level-headed, realistic and who doesn't play games.

 Someone who's a romantic and wants to get married and start a family right away.

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 Get my heart broken often. Is it really that bad to discuss marriage and babies on the first date?

 Avoid them at all costs. They're suffocating and stifling.

 Take them slow. If I don't rush the guy who makes my coffee in the morning, why would I rush love?

 
3. You've been dating your guy for a month. How do you introduce him to your friends?

 I jokingly say, "This is _____, the man of the hour."

 "This is my fiancé, he just doesn't know it yet."

 "This is my friend ____, we met at a bar."

KenyaKnows: A Woman Who's Knows Her Worth never Settles

KenyaKnows: A Woman Who's Knows Her Worth never Settles: "I choose this topic because in recent studies I have discovered that there are so many women, whom have allowed themselves to settle when..."

A Woman Who's Knows Her Worth never Settles

I choose this topic because in recent studies I have discovered that there are so many women, whom have allowed themselves to settle when it comes to dating. Speaking as a woman .....I believe it's safe to say that many of us before we even reach our teen years dream of the beautiful wedding....to our "Knight in Shining Armour" ...so why is it as time progress some women lower their standards as far as What she's worthy of having VS. What she's willing to settle for. I know of a woman who's been with the same man for over 36 years and to this day she's not his wife. As women we must know that our value is far above what some of us settle for. Most polls that I reviewed said on average a couple date for a period of 2 years before the man pops the question....Other polls suggest the couple date one year and then live together the next to see if this would be a great arrangement and from this form an engagement .Well I totally disagree....Have you ever noticed couples who were married in the early 40's and 50's are to this day still married celebrating over 50 years of wedded bliss.Not to say that it was easy, but what was it that women did back then that women aren't doing now.Well for starters, it's so easy for women to give to a man the most precious gift she possess (Her Vajayjay)...No one's holding out these days there are more one night stands than there are McDonald's and lets face it there's a McDonald's on every corner.So women I suggest we go back to the days of old to receive what we truly deserve as far as love and commitment. No longer should you allow yourself to be treated as a "Car" on lease.....test driven for miles and miles , receiving a few dings and scraps on the body all to be traded in for another model.....Instead think of yourself as a fine piece of "Artwork"  a "Masterpiece" kept under tight security until a collector comes along who understands your value and your worth. But first it all starts with you knowing...Your Woman's Worth.

Dead Beat Dad's and the Women who Love Them

The NBA and NFL is full of deadbeat dads who can’t keep up with their legion of kids by multiple women, but one Michigan man is putting all those guys to shame. After failing to pay even a fraction of his required child support, Howard Veal, father to 23 kids by 14 different women just received a 23-48 month jail sentence for his criminal offense. “In my entire career I have never seen a case like this where so much was owed to so many and ignored,” Kent County Judge Dennis Leiber, who has presided over support cases for more than 20 years, told ABC News. The Michigan man accumulated a debt of more than $533,000 in child support payments, according to court records. Veal has allegedly failed to support his children beyond a few meager payments. “You are the poster child for irresponsibility,” Leiber told Veal at a court hearing, according to The Grand Rapids Press. “You’re an insult to every responsible father who sacrifices to provide for their children.” We see articles such as this one find ourselves at a lost for words.But what is even more disturbing are the Women who continue to have intimate relationships with men who refuse to take financial responsibility for their children. Have you ever had a friend ...that you found yourself saying "I feel so sorry for her, she works all the time and her live -in baby daddy is there living,eating,sleeping all the while she's working nine to five just to make a living? Well let me start by saying stop feeling sorry for someone who tolerates such foolishness. The Movie "Baby Boy" comes to mind. Jody the mamma's boy was the Father of two by two different women and dude didn't have one job. I still to this day don't understand how a woman could be o.k with a man who refuses to be the man of the house. In the Days of Fred Flinstone the man went out and worked hard for the money to provide for his honey. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying that women shouldn't work...I'm just wondering when did it become acceptable for some men not to work. I also know that there are some hard working men out there who's entire purpose in life is to care for his family. My real issue isn't with the men but with the women who tolerate such foolishness. That old saying "I can do bad all by myself comes to mind. See, I like to think about who will be harmed by my foolish decision. Just imagine with me right now what goes through the mind of children who see their mother's go off to work while daddy is allowed to stay in bed and sleep. What example is being taught to the children in this home. The reason that the Census says 71%of men in America doesn't provide financial care for their children is because there are women out there whom enable them. Like, why would a woman be so desperate to have a man that in order to keep him around she pays, for hair cuts, clothing, shoes,etc etc just to be with this man. The lack of self-worth causes some women to settle. And I just want women to understand just how much influence you have in a man's life. It goes all the way back to the days f Adam and Eve. It's been said for years that Eve made Adam eat the forbidden fruit. That statement caused me to think. O.K. If a woman can influence a man to do whats forbidden ...that same woman can influence a man to do what's right. women don't allow these men to be there with you and the children and be counter-productive. Children deserve so much more. Child Support Resource Books Fathers' Rights: The Source book for Dealing with the Child Support System Amazon Price: $13.94 List Price: $22.00 Girl, Get that Child Support Amazon Price: $11.89 List Price: $13.99 Unmarried Parents' Rights (and Responsibilities), 3E Amazon Price: $8.75 List Price: $14.95 Child Support Garnishment Through Payroll Regardless if you have been receiving a child support garnishment on your pay check for some time now, or if it has just been set up, understanding the child support calculator your employer uses can be confusing. Employers are required by state child support enforcement to follow strict rules when it comes to how to calculate child support deduction. They are given detailed order paperwork from state CS enforcement offices that outlines the child support calculator equation they are required to use to calculate your child support Your employer can not change the amount nor can they legally help you avoid paying your child support garnishment. Nothing you bring in to your employer can change your child support garnishment amount. They are mandated to follow only the rules and guidelines set by the child support garnishment as set by the state child support enforcement office.

TAMPA, FLORIDA.... The wife of a military officer shot and killed her son and daughter

IN TAMPA, FLORIDA.... The wife of a military officer shot and killed her son on the way to soccer practice, then drove to their upscale home and shot her daughter in the head while she studied at her computer, police said Friday. Afterward, the woman told detectives she killed the teens for being "mouthy." Julie Powers Schenecker admitted the slayings after officers found her covered in blood on the back porch of her home Friday morning, police spokeswoman Laura McElroy said. Schenecker's mother had called police from Texas because she was unable to reach the 50-year-old woman, who she said was depressed and had been complaining about her children. Schenecker's husband, Parker Schenecker, is an Army colonel stationed at the headquarters of U.S. Central Command at MacDill Air Force Base in Tampa. The father had been away for several days when the killings happened, said CentCom spokesman Lt. Col. Michael Lawhorn, describing him as a career Army intelligence officer. Police said Parker Schenecker was in Qatar and was told of his children's deaths on Friday. Julie Schenecker left a note detailing her plans to kill her disrespectful children and then herself, saying "they talked back and were mouthy and that she was going to take care of it," McElroy said. She provided the same motive to police who interviewed her. "I think we will never understand how or why a mother could take the lives of her children," McElroy said. "That was the only reason she provided to our detectives." The body of Schenecker's daughter, Calyx Powers Schenecker, 16, was found in an upstairs bedroom, McElroy said. The body of her son, Powers Beau Schenecker, 13, was found in an SUV in the garage. An arrest affidavit said Schenecker shot her son twice in the head "for talking back" as she drove him to soccer practice Thursday night. She drove home, went inside and shot her daughter in the back of head while the teen sat at a computer doing homework, then shot her in the face, the affidavit said. McElroy said investigators believe the teens "never saw it coming." Both were killed with a .38-caliber pistol. Julie Schenecker was jailed and charged with two counts of first-degree murder. Wearing a white jumpsuit, she was led into a county jail later Friday visibly shaking and being supported by a sheriff's deputy. The family's home is on a cul-de-sac in a gated country club community in north Tampa. Hillsborough County property records show that the Scheneckers bought the house in 2008 for $448,000. It now has a market value of $261,000. Charanun Soodjinda, 38, lives across the street. He said the Scheneckers moved in about two years ago and "fit right in." The couple's two children often played in the cul-de-sac with other neighborhood kids, and Julie Schenecker seemed to be at home a lot. "They seemed like a nice family," Soodjinda said. "I never thought this would happen. How could you do that to your children?" Seena Jain, who carpooled with the Schenecker children and her own daughter, Sheema, 15, told the St. Petersburg Times that recently Parker Schenecker had picked up his wife's carpooling shift while she recovered from a serious car crash that happened about a month ago. Details of the accident weren't immediately available. Julie Schenecker's Facebook page says she earned a bachelor's degree in physical education from the University of Northern Iowa. THIS IN MY OPINION IS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF "TRAGEDY THAT DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE"....SOCIETY RANKS THE EDUCATED AND THE AFFLUENT AS A CLASS OF INDIVIDUALS WHOM RARELY WOULD FIND THEMSELVES IN SITUATIONS SUCH AS THIS.THE WORLD IS UNDER SUCH FINANCIAL HARDSHIP,DIVORCE RATES ARE SKY ROCKETING YET THERE ARE THOSE WHOM ARE ABLE TO BE CONTENT WHILE OTHERS ARE IN DISCONTENT. AGAIN, TRAGEDY DOESN'T DISCRIMINATE. PEOPLE ARE UNDER GREAT DISTRESS, WAKE UP PEOPLE! WE ARE LIVING IN OUR LAST DAYS. THERE WILL BE MANY PASSING JUDGMENT UPON THIS WOMAN. I KNOW THE REPORT SAYS SHE SHOT AND KILLED HER CHILDREN BECAUSE OF THEIR MOUTHING OFF TO HER. TRUTH BE TOLD .....JULIE SCHENECKER HAD.....HAD ENOUGH BASED ON THE STATE OF MIND IN WHICH SHE WAS IN. THIS EDUCATED WOMAN WITH THE LOVELY HOME, HUSBAND OF HIGH REGARD AND TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN LACKED A VERY IMPORTANT NEED WITHIN. MY HEART IS FILLED WITH COMPASSION FOR THIS WOMAN WHOM FOUND HERSELF AT HER MENTAL BREAKING POINT.IF THE WALLS OF THAT HOME COULD TALK WE WOULD BE IN AWE AT THE THINGS IT WOULD SPEAK. I ASK EACH OF YOU TO TAKE A MOMENT AND PRAY FOR THE FAMILY AS WELL AS JULIE SCHENECKER.....