"Why DO MEN LIE????

“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!” “Why does he lie about the little things?”“Why won’t he just tell me the truth?”“How do I get him to be 100% truthful with me?”“Why didn’t you just tell me the truth?” Questions women ask other women (Wrong Source)
“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!”The fact is all men lie . . . And all women lie too.In fact, I’m just going to say it: You are a Liar.If you’re totally honest with yourself, I bet you can come up with dozensOf lies big and small that you’ve told:One Reason I have discovered is He Doesn’t Think You Want the TruthEven if you don’t do it consciously, women test men with dangerous questions allTime:“Do I look fat in this?”“Do you ever think about other women?”“Do you ever wish you were single?”“Are you still as attracted to me as you were when we met?”“Do you think Kelly has a nicer ass than I do?” The second reason men lie to women is because men are scared ofWomen. Not physically (not usually, though occasionally you hear of a womanGoing all Lorena Bobbitt on her man). Nope, men are scared of your emotions.Emotions are actually harder for guys to deal with and recover fromThan they are for women. We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment only to be totallyFine 5 minutes later. But when it comes to emotion, believe it or not guys are a lot more fragile.A Woman’s emotions are TERRIFYING to a guy. And because it’s so terrifying (and because they are so illEquipped to deal with high levels of emotions), when most guys are confrontedBy an emotional person or situation, they just switch off. (Which,I know, infuriates you it pisses me off as well.) 

So what does this have to do with lying? 

Everything!!!!! From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell women the actualTruth you could freak out on them, flood them with our scary emotions,And push them out into the ocean where the sharks are nibbling at theirLegs (LOL) and it’ll take hours and hours to recover.The fact is, guys are SCARED of your emotions because they’re afraidOf the emotional state you’re going to push them into. And we know from the man’s response to our emotions, him getting pushed out into emotional purgatory sucks, so a guy will do all he can do to avoid it.  Men aren’t women. Well, womenAren’t men either. And to most men, women are beautiful, wonderful,Attractive, necessary, crazy people who don’t make much sense at all.

When a guy does the math in his head about telling the truth or tellingA little white lie, often telling the truth just isn’t worth the emotional drama. And last but not least my third reason the unrealistic expectations we as women place on men. And a lot of guys walk around under the weight of crazy expectations born from fairy tales and crappy movies starring shirtless charming Charlie’s. I call that unattainable ideal women have for men “the myth of Prince Charming.”If you’re like most women, you have a mental picture of the perfect guy who’s out there waiting for you. The guy who will sweep you off your feet, who only has eyes for you, who will ravish you and take care of you and be truly devoted to you and has a great job and a butler, maid the black card with an awesome accent and knows all the right things to say . . . well, if you’ve seen a Disney movie you get the idea. But, I hate to tell you, Prince Charming doesn’t exist for women any more than the Myth of The perfect woman with the perfect body who does everything perfect actually exists for men. Men are complicated and dark and lusty and dirty and occasionally mean.  In other words, we are all human and we all have flaws. Most guys know that if we told us what they really wanted especially sexually, we’d be appalled. So they lie. And pretend to be bigger and better and more like Prince Charming than they actually are, all in an attempt to keep us happy. I mean come to think of it guys are truly AWESOME ladies!!!!And I know you’re asking….So how do you get Him to Tell You the 100% Truth All the Time? You don’t….I’m not saying there aren’t ways to reduce the number of lies men tell you. But lies are a part of all relationships and if you think about it, you’ll realize that you lie to the men in your life, too.  So if You Can’t Get Him to Tell You the Truth All the Time, What Do You Do? Great question, I suggest you 1. “Choose” to assume he’s telling you the truth about the little things even when he might be lying through his teeth. 2. Try not to ask questions you don’t actually want the answer to. 3. Learn the truth through facts about men that demonstrate that you’re actually cool with your guy being a guy. The more you understand and empathize with the man in your life, the less he’ll feel the need to lie to you. I know from experience that it’s best to understand my man and for him to understand who I am and love me for me (with all my flaws on full display). Also, I know to be open and honest with my mate  and I know from experience that when HE DOES  tell me the  truth, I can handle it and won’t freak out.  Ladies, better understand not only your man but the make and mindset of the male species. It creates a much healthier relationship.

Singles Connecting on Social Media Sites "My very First Down Low Brother Encounter"

Ok True Story, I encountered my First Down Low Brother right here in the world of Facebook. Well this guy started inboxing me and we became Facebook  friends. I'll just call him Sweet n Low. Any who, Sweet n' Low was handsome muscular built with the Idris Elba type of glow honey.  Dark skinned and Single or so I thought. One day out of curiosity I was like let me go look at his page you know view his pictures see how he rolling. He bragged a lot, so it made me curious. So I take a stroll through the photos and I ran across this one photo. You know the ones we all steal from each other. Well, this one said:  Love the one who sticks by you who celebrates you,  not tolerate you that kind of love is for a lifetime. At first I was thinking  with my mushy chick mindframe, awwwww. But to my surprise
Under the photo there was a comment from a man . And I qoute: Y'all just jealous of what we share and you can keep trying nothing will break us apart. In my Scooby Doo voice mmmhuhm? So being me I made a comment my bullshit detector knew something wasn't right.  I was like Sweet n Low, who is this guy and what is he referring to?  He goes, Oh that's an old crazy FB friend of mines..lol
So I was like, well it sounds as though he's referring to you as his man? Sweet n Low didn't respond. So I made another comment one which expressed my disbelief. Oh my! that just doesn't sit well with me. So I went back to the pictures Noticed the man was tagged in half of his album. Pictures at restaurants no faces just "2" sets of man's hands. Oh yes! if something is suspect to me I'm getting to the truth I can't help it the scorpio in me can sense bullshit from a mild away. So the guy says hello to me on  the post. Checking his trap I guess. So I inbox the man I would normally never do this but my gut was dead on I just needed to be sure I was on point. (yeah u may think I was wrong) but this man and I had already had one date and spent frequent moments in text and conversation by phone.  I have a right to know if he is Bi-Sexual."Wrong Chick" to play games with. So, I message the man I was like Hi I was just wondering how do you and my good friend Sweet n Low know one another...his reply:
Why!!!!
Me: Oh my why so hostile?
Him : Why!!!
I'm thinking yeah
So I reply never mind Honeyyy
He went off !!!
I don't want your baby daddy he won't me. I'm like whoa whoa, I don't know this fella in this manner
He shared all kind of dirty sexual details so of coarse I felt the need to inform the other party involved. So I gave Sweet n' Low a much needed update on this.
I text him: Hey Uhmmm you may want to have a word with your man friend he's in my inbox letting all your skeletons out the closet. At that moment I knew without a doubt he was a down low brother. He cursed me out I responded, look Sweet n Low your the deciever in this matter, loose my number. Moments later they blocked me. I guess the cat was outta the bag.  Some say Facebook is for entertainment, but there is some truth in some of the things we browse over on social media . After all Facebook ask us daily: What's on your mind? What was on my mind was is this dude gay? I needed to know. To each it's own but I'm full blown heterosexualAnd deserve honesty at all cost. I tries to keep it Classy but with a K. . You be sure to do your  home work when it comes to dating. You never know whom your interacting with you'll be shocked at what you learn. Especially with the Catfishing going around. I'm thankful at this moment.  Oh if he and I would have been intimate that's when the shit would have really hit the fan. Glad I followed my instincts. You may need to do a little  homework.

Before you get involved with the wrong person or find yourself heart broken. Because honey Sweet "n" Low was on the Down Low.