What do Women really want?

If you ask most Single Women what they long for in a companion, most will say they desire a man whose balanced. A man of great understanding, A born  leader, hard working and yes one whose emotionally mature. Logically we will never understand the complexity of how Beautiful God designed us. I'm in this transitional phase, and I'm learning that our emotions are simply indicators that are triggered if and when angry, upset, hurt, depressed or when your not being treated how you believe you deserve to be treated. It's  our que to stop, embrace the feeling, reason with it and not react.  But instead respond with wisdom. Fellas, her emotions  (if she knows how to control them) are the GPS to help the two of you stay on course. I mean, think about it.
Someone  has to be intune with the emotional part of the connection. The reality is Men are logical , Women are emotional. And to the men. Your ability to think logically, helps keep the two of you balanced. If we each operate according to how we were created relationships, families even our society as a whole would be so much better. This is coming from a Woman who's working on her own emotions, that is(tickled you would have to know me to understand) "Emotional Intelligence" is Key Ladies!" Studying self to evolutionize self is great. After all you are you're greatest project.

Are you truly ready to be his Wife?

Are you really ready to be a Wife?
A question I find myself asking myself everytime I entertain the idea of whay would it be like? The finding a dress planning yada yada yada. I may not be married as of yet. keyword  "yet". But neither am I ignorant.
Women of faith love qouting the Scripture He that finds a Wife finds a Good thing...the problem with that is...we are too busy being good things when it clearly says, he finds a Wife. Which means we must have the qualities and character of a Wife before we wear the dress and run to the church or the court house. And being a Wife means more than laying on your back like Flipper,

"Cleaning like Hazel" and "Cooking like Betty Crocker". There are business's legal and illegal that offer a man all the above.  Are you patient?  Are you prayerful? Can you encourage? Are you capable of keeping the affairs of the home private between he and yourself? 

Are you financially responsible?  Forgiving? Can you Commit to one man?  Can you Support his goals and dreams? Are you  emotionally available without smothering or going ballistic?  Are you focused on solutions? Or are you driven by problems? All questions we as single/dating women should ask ourselves, before hand. That and so much more. In my opinion every marriage union  should be a reflection of God's love. "Unconditional love".
Not self seeking, fault finding, very sacrificial and unselfish. And if one has not mastered these things. Think twice before accepting his ring.

"Why DO MEN LIE????

“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!” “Why does he lie about the little things?”“Why won’t he just tell me the truth?”“How do I get him to be 100% truthful with me?”“Why didn’t you just tell me the truth?” Questions women ask other women (Wrong Source)
“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!”The fact is all men lie . . . And all women lie too.In fact, I’m just going to say it: You are a Liar.If you’re totally honest with yourself, I bet you can come up with dozensOf lies big and small that you’ve told:One Reason I have discovered is He Doesn’t Think You Want the TruthEven if you don’t do it consciously, women test men with dangerous questions allTime:“Do I look fat in this?”“Do you ever think about other women?”“Do you ever wish you were single?”“Are you still as attracted to me as you were when we met?”“Do you think Kelly has a nicer ass than I do?” The second reason men lie to women is because men are scared ofWomen. Not physically (not usually, though occasionally you hear of a womanGoing all Lorena Bobbitt on her man). Nope, men are scared of your emotions.Emotions are actually harder for guys to deal with and recover fromThan they are for women. We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment only to be totallyFine 5 minutes later. But when it comes to emotion, believe it or not guys are a lot more fragile.A Woman’s emotions are TERRIFYING to a guy. And because it’s so terrifying (and because they are so illEquipped to deal with high levels of emotions), when most guys are confrontedBy an emotional person or situation, they just switch off. (Which,I know, infuriates you it pisses me off as well.) 

So what does this have to do with lying? 

Everything!!!!! From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell women the actualTruth you could freak out on them, flood them with our scary emotions,And push them out into the ocean where the sharks are nibbling at theirLegs (LOL) and it’ll take hours and hours to recover.The fact is, guys are SCARED of your emotions because they’re afraidOf the emotional state you’re going to push them into. And we know from the man’s response to our emotions, him getting pushed out into emotional purgatory sucks, so a guy will do all he can do to avoid it.  Men aren’t women. Well, womenAren’t men either. And to most men, women are beautiful, wonderful,Attractive, necessary, crazy people who don’t make much sense at all.

When a guy does the math in his head about telling the truth or tellingA little white lie, often telling the truth just isn’t worth the emotional drama. And last but not least my third reason the unrealistic expectations we as women place on men. And a lot of guys walk around under the weight of crazy expectations born from fairy tales and crappy movies starring shirtless charming Charlie’s. I call that unattainable ideal women have for men “the myth of Prince Charming.”If you’re like most women, you have a mental picture of the perfect guy who’s out there waiting for you. The guy who will sweep you off your feet, who only has eyes for you, who will ravish you and take care of you and be truly devoted to you and has a great job and a butler, maid the black card with an awesome accent and knows all the right things to say . . . well, if you’ve seen a Disney movie you get the idea. But, I hate to tell you, Prince Charming doesn’t exist for women any more than the Myth of The perfect woman with the perfect body who does everything perfect actually exists for men. Men are complicated and dark and lusty and dirty and occasionally mean.  In other words, we are all human and we all have flaws. Most guys know that if we told us what they really wanted especially sexually, we’d be appalled. So they lie. And pretend to be bigger and better and more like Prince Charming than they actually are, all in an attempt to keep us happy. I mean come to think of it guys are truly AWESOME ladies!!!!And I know you’re asking….So how do you get Him to Tell You the 100% Truth All the Time? You don’t….I’m not saying there aren’t ways to reduce the number of lies men tell you. But lies are a part of all relationships and if you think about it, you’ll realize that you lie to the men in your life, too.  So if You Can’t Get Him to Tell You the Truth All the Time, What Do You Do? Great question, I suggest you 1. “Choose” to assume he’s telling you the truth about the little things even when he might be lying through his teeth. 2. Try not to ask questions you don’t actually want the answer to. 3. Learn the truth through facts about men that demonstrate that you’re actually cool with your guy being a guy. The more you understand and empathize with the man in your life, the less he’ll feel the need to lie to you. I know from experience that it’s best to understand my man and for him to understand who I am and love me for me (with all my flaws on full display). Also, I know to be open and honest with my mate  and I know from experience that when HE DOES  tell me the  truth, I can handle it and won’t freak out.  Ladies, better understand not only your man but the make and mindset of the male species. It creates a much healthier relationship.