KenyaKnows: A Woman Who's Knows Her Worth never Settles

KenyaKnows: A Woman Who's Knows Her Worth never Settles: "I choose this topic because in recent studies I have discovered that there are so many women, whom have allowed themselves to settle when..."

A Woman Who's Knows Her Worth never Settles

I choose this topic because in recent studies I have discovered that there are so many women, whom have allowed themselves to settle when it comes to dating. Speaking as a woman .....I believe it's safe to say that many of us before we even reach our teen years dream of the beautiful wedding....to our "Knight in Shining Armour" ...so why is it as time progress some women lower their standards as far as What she's worthy of having VS. What she's willing to settle for. I know of a woman who's been with the same man for over 36 years and to this day she's not his wife. As women we must know that our value is far above what some of us settle for. Most polls that I reviewed said on average a couple date for a period of 2 years before the man pops the question....Other polls suggest the couple date one year and then live together the next to see if this would be a great arrangement and from this form an engagement .Well I totally disagree....Have you ever noticed couples who were married in the early 40's and 50's are to this day still married celebrating over 50 years of wedded bliss.Not to say that it was easy, but what was it that women did back then that women aren't doing now.Well for starters, it's so easy for women to give to a man the most precious gift she possess (Her Vajayjay)...No one's holding out these days there are more one night stands than there are McDonald's and lets face it there's a McDonald's on every corner.So women I suggest we go back to the days of old to receive what we truly deserve as far as love and commitment. No longer should you allow yourself to be treated as a "Car" on lease.....test driven for miles and miles , receiving a few dings and scraps on the body all to be traded in for another model.....Instead think of yourself as a fine piece of "Artwork"  a "Masterpiece" kept under tight security until a collector comes along who understands your value and your worth. But first it all starts with you knowing...Your Woman's Worth.

Dead Beat Dad's and the Women who Love Them

The NBA and NFL is full of deadbeat dads who can’t keep up with their legion of kids by multiple women, but one Michigan man is putting all those guys to shame. After failing to pay even a fraction of his required child support, Howard Veal, father to 23 kids by 14 different women just received a 23-48 month jail sentence for his criminal offense. “In my entire career I have never seen a case like this where so much was owed to so many and ignored,” Kent County Judge Dennis Leiber, who has presided over support cases for more than 20 years, told ABC News. The Michigan man accumulated a debt of more than $533,000 in child support payments, according to court records. Veal has allegedly failed to support his children beyond a few meager payments. “You are the poster child for irresponsibility,” Leiber told Veal at a court hearing, according to The Grand Rapids Press. “You’re an insult to every responsible father who sacrifices to provide for their children.” We see articles such as this one find ourselves at a lost for words.But what is even more disturbing are the Women who continue to have intimate relationships with men who refuse to take financial responsibility for their children. Have you ever had a friend ...that you found yourself saying "I feel so sorry for her, she works all the time and her live -in baby daddy is there living,eating,sleeping all the while she's working nine to five just to make a living? Well let me start by saying stop feeling sorry for someone who tolerates such foolishness. The Movie "Baby Boy" comes to mind. Jody the mamma's boy was the Father of two by two different women and dude didn't have one job. I still to this day don't understand how a woman could be o.k with a man who refuses to be the man of the house. In the Days of Fred Flinstone the man went out and worked hard for the money to provide for his honey. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying that women shouldn't work...I'm just wondering when did it become acceptable for some men not to work. I also know that there are some hard working men out there who's entire purpose in life is to care for his family. My real issue isn't with the men but with the women who tolerate such foolishness. That old saying "I can do bad all by myself comes to mind. See, I like to think about who will be harmed by my foolish decision. Just imagine with me right now what goes through the mind of children who see their mother's go off to work while daddy is allowed to stay in bed and sleep. What example is being taught to the children in this home. The reason that the Census says 71%of men in America doesn't provide financial care for their children is because there are women out there whom enable them. Like, why would a woman be so desperate to have a man that in order to keep him around she pays, for hair cuts, clothing, shoes,etc etc just to be with this man. The lack of self-worth causes some women to settle. And I just want women to understand just how much influence you have in a man's life. It goes all the way back to the days f Adam and Eve. It's been said for years that Eve made Adam eat the forbidden fruit. That statement caused me to think. O.K. If a woman can influence a man to do whats forbidden ...that same woman can influence a man to do what's right. women don't allow these men to be there with you and the children and be counter-productive. Children deserve so much more. Child Support Resource Books Fathers' Rights: The Source book for Dealing with the Child Support System Amazon Price: $13.94 List Price: $22.00 Girl, Get that Child Support Amazon Price: $11.89 List Price: $13.99 Unmarried Parents' Rights (and Responsibilities), 3E Amazon Price: $8.75 List Price: $14.95 Child Support Garnishment Through Payroll Regardless if you have been receiving a child support garnishment on your pay check for some time now, or if it has just been set up, understanding the child support calculator your employer uses can be confusing. Employers are required by state child support enforcement to follow strict rules when it comes to how to calculate child support deduction. They are given detailed order paperwork from state CS enforcement offices that outlines the child support calculator equation they are required to use to calculate your child support Your employer can not change the amount nor can they legally help you avoid paying your child support garnishment. Nothing you bring in to your employer can change your child support garnishment amount. They are mandated to follow only the rules and guidelines set by the child support garnishment as set by the state child support enforcement office.

TAMPA, FLORIDA.... The wife of a military officer shot and killed her son and daughter

IN TAMPA, FLORIDA.... The wife of a military officer shot and killed her son on the way to soccer practice, then drove to their upscale home and shot her daughter in the head while she studied at her computer, police said Friday. Afterward, the woman told detectives she killed the teens for being "mouthy." Julie Powers Schenecker admitted the slayings after officers found her covered in blood on the back porch of her home Friday morning, police spokeswoman Laura McElroy said. Schenecker's mother had called police from Texas because she was unable to reach the 50-year-old woman, who she said was depressed and had been complaining about her children. Schenecker's husband, Parker Schenecker, is an Army colonel stationed at the headquarters of U.S. Central Command at MacDill Air Force Base in Tampa. The father had been away for several days when the killings happened, said CentCom spokesman Lt. Col. Michael Lawhorn, describing him as a career Army intelligence officer. Police said Parker Schenecker was in Qatar and was told of his children's deaths on Friday. Julie Schenecker left a note detailing her plans to kill her disrespectful children and then herself, saying "they talked back and were mouthy and that she was going to take care of it," McElroy said. She provided the same motive to police who interviewed her. "I think we will never understand how or why a mother could take the lives of her children," McElroy said. "That was the only reason she provided to our detectives." The body of Schenecker's daughter, Calyx Powers Schenecker, 16, was found in an upstairs bedroom, McElroy said. The body of her son, Powers Beau Schenecker, 13, was found in an SUV in the garage. An arrest affidavit said Schenecker shot her son twice in the head "for talking back" as she drove him to soccer practice Thursday night. She drove home, went inside and shot her daughter in the back of head while the teen sat at a computer doing homework, then shot her in the face, the affidavit said. McElroy said investigators believe the teens "never saw it coming." Both were killed with a .38-caliber pistol. Julie Schenecker was jailed and charged with two counts of first-degree murder. Wearing a white jumpsuit, she was led into a county jail later Friday visibly shaking and being supported by a sheriff's deputy. The family's home is on a cul-de-sac in a gated country club community in north Tampa. Hillsborough County property records show that the Scheneckers bought the house in 2008 for $448,000. It now has a market value of $261,000. Charanun Soodjinda, 38, lives across the street. He said the Scheneckers moved in about two years ago and "fit right in." The couple's two children often played in the cul-de-sac with other neighborhood kids, and Julie Schenecker seemed to be at home a lot. "They seemed like a nice family," Soodjinda said. "I never thought this would happen. How could you do that to your children?" Seena Jain, who carpooled with the Schenecker children and her own daughter, Sheema, 15, told the St. Petersburg Times that recently Parker Schenecker had picked up his wife's carpooling shift while she recovered from a serious car crash that happened about a month ago. Details of the accident weren't immediately available. Julie Schenecker's Facebook page says she earned a bachelor's degree in physical education from the University of Northern Iowa. THIS IN MY OPINION IS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF "TRAGEDY THAT DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE"....SOCIETY RANKS THE EDUCATED AND THE AFFLUENT AS A CLASS OF INDIVIDUALS WHOM RARELY WOULD FIND THEMSELVES IN SITUATIONS SUCH AS THIS.THE WORLD IS UNDER SUCH FINANCIAL HARDSHIP,DIVORCE RATES ARE SKY ROCKETING YET THERE ARE THOSE WHOM ARE ABLE TO BE CONTENT WHILE OTHERS ARE IN DISCONTENT. AGAIN, TRAGEDY DOESN'T DISCRIMINATE. PEOPLE ARE UNDER GREAT DISTRESS, WAKE UP PEOPLE! WE ARE LIVING IN OUR LAST DAYS. THERE WILL BE MANY PASSING JUDGMENT UPON THIS WOMAN. I KNOW THE REPORT SAYS SHE SHOT AND KILLED HER CHILDREN BECAUSE OF THEIR MOUTHING OFF TO HER. TRUTH BE TOLD .....JULIE SCHENECKER HAD.....HAD ENOUGH BASED ON THE STATE OF MIND IN WHICH SHE WAS IN. THIS EDUCATED WOMAN WITH THE LOVELY HOME, HUSBAND OF HIGH REGARD AND TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN LACKED A VERY IMPORTANT NEED WITHIN. MY HEART IS FILLED WITH COMPASSION FOR THIS WOMAN WHOM FOUND HERSELF AT HER MENTAL BREAKING POINT.IF THE WALLS OF THAT HOME COULD TALK WE WOULD BE IN AWE AT THE THINGS IT WOULD SPEAK. I ASK EACH OF YOU TO TAKE A MOMENT AND PRAY FOR THE FAMILY AS WELL AS JULIE SCHENECKER.....

DATING TIPS :FROM WHO SHOULD PAY TO WHAT TO WEAR ON A FIRST DATE .....AND THE LOCATION OF THE FIRST DATE IS IMPORTANT WHEN CHOOSING WHAT TO WEAR

Let's go over some first date dress basics. Maybe you'll get lucky and I'll have an idea you haven't already considered. Any ideas on where you going on your first date? If you can, have a conversation with your date to find out where you're going. But be simple with your questions to make sure you dont' sound to controlling. This will help immeasurably, even if you can just get a sense of the formality of the occasion. A good tip is it's always better to be a little overdressed. We've all at some time or another ended up at the baseball game in a frilly, walk-in-the-park sundress, which beats hell out of going to see Itzhak Perlman wearing skateboarding pants (which happened to me once). --Editors Tip ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Good Date Movies For At Home Dates If you are still on your first few dates with a guy or girl, stay away from the serious dramas, bloody action flicks, and overly sad romantic (mushy-gushy) movies. Try sticking with up-beat, light hearted movies that are in the romantic comedy genre. He'll enjoy the comedy and you can enjoy the little bit of romance. See a selection of recommended romantic comedies that are great for first dates or newly dating occassions. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Advice On Shoes: Comfortable vs. Sexy Find out if you will be walking, and if so, how far. If the guy's at all exercise or nature oriented, double or triple the estimate he gives you and you'll probably come close to the truth. (And if he flat-out lies about how far the walk is, don't go out with him a second time. Use this estimate to choose the durability and support of your shoes, and if you aren't confident, pack along some cuter, (invariably less comfortable) shoes in a bag. The Little Black Dating Dress If you're having the classic dinner date in a place created to impress women on first dates, the choice is simple. There is no substitute for the little black dress (known in fashion circles as LBD). It is equivalent to the men's fashion outfit: the classic dark grey suit. If you don't have one of these must-haves, get out the catalogs, visit your favorite designer on-line and choose the version that suits you best. Add a purse, pumps and stole to match, and there you have it. For premium wearability, your LBD should be of medium length, and although the classic is sleeveless (meant to be worn with opera-length gloves), choose the sleeve length based on your comfort. The little black dress saw Audrey Hepburn's character through most of "Breakfast at Tiffany's", and there's no reason why you shouldn't wear yours to parties, first dates and anytime you want to feel absolutely classic. Vary your jewelry and accessories, and you can wear it to work, for lunch in the park, shopping with the girls and dancing with the boys (or the other way 'round, if you prefer). The Coffee or Lunch Day time Date If your date has read the advice columns that say to take the pressure off by having a coffee date or a daytime date, you can expect to dress more casually. In this case, it doesn't much matter what you wear (as long as it's neat and put-together), because you already know they guy is either nervous or non-committal. In the first case, you can graciously put him at ease: in the second, you can keep him guessing. Choice of the low-impact date does not indicate a man's potential as a long-term romance. Cheapskates and guys who aren't sure they want to "really" date will choose the daytime scenario because it's simple and cheap. They get exposure without investment. Nice guys and shy guys will choose this date because of its low-drama possibilities. They get to be with you without having to act like Cary Grant. Nice guys and shy guys will either up the ante or wait quietly in agony for you to express interest in seeing them again. Cheapskates will expect you to pay for your own coffee. Non-committal guys will say they'll call you, then won't. I want to add an aside about the coffee comment above. I struggled with this question for years, and paid for a lot of coffee (and dated several cheapskates) until I figured out the flaw in the feminist tao. You see, feminists are expected to buy their own stuff, and sometimes the guy's stuff too, in order to show how liberated we really are. The mindset is, if you're going to be "freer" than non-feminists, you should expect to pay your own way. The fact is, if you adhere to this policy, you will be less free than other women because you will have less money. The other important fact to consider is that women still earn about 60% of what their male counterparts earn. Until we're paid equally, men should always buy the coffee. There is a creepy idea (often unspoken, often assumed) that if a woman in not planning to become sexually involved with a man, she should pay half. If you ask me, that's selling sex pretty cheap. I say, forget all that crap and hang out with guys who don't have a problem buying your coffee and dinner or waiting until you're good and ready before making any moves on you. Besides all that, if you're dating because you're looking for a commitment, you want a guy who's going to be willing and able to pay on a mortgage, and later, for child support. His willingness to shell out $2.50 for a latte is a very slight indicator of his potential, but it's better than nothing. Who Should Pay on the First Date? Guy vs. Girl Although you shouldn't expect to pay for things on a first date, bring along plenty of available funding. At least enough for cab fare home. If you think he's the sincere type and you want to show that you like him (without saying anything scary like, "I like you"), you might add an element to your daytime-date outfit that you don't wear every day just to acknowledge that something nice is happening on this day. Wear a pair of pants one shade nicer than what you usually wear, or trade walking shoes for pumps. Don't make big changes in makeup, though. Men have definite feelings about and reactions to make-up, and if your face looks noticeably different, he will become frightened and disoriented. Wedding and Special Occassion Party Dates Part of the way we judge a potential relationship is by the events we attend together. In straight relationships, going to a wedding with a date is an automatic increase in that relationship's potential intimacy, if the man has invited the woman along. If the woman invites the man and he's not ready for the commitment of witnessing someone else's commitment, he will either decline, bail at the last minute, or attend with great discomfort and break off the relationship soon after. In same or opposite-sex couples, asking someone to attend a wedding with you is a bold maneuver to be taken on only if you're sure your relationship is ready for it, or if you want the other person to break up with you. (A sit-com scenario. Someone asks a woman, "What do you say if you want to get rid of a guy?" Her answer: "I say, 'I love you and I want to have your babies'". If you get asked to a wedding on a first date, you're either with a social inept, a potential stalker, someone who's been in love with you from afar for ten years, someone who thinks it'll be a good way to get laid, or someone who has nothing left to lose. For these reasons, I would not accept such a first date, eliminating the need for discussing what to wear at such a debacle. Dates to Baseball or Sporting Event Games Search Amazon.com Apparel for sexy dresses for women Jeans or chinos, a hat, layers, and bring a thick sweater if you live near the sea. Nothing too sexy, nothing that can't be washed if you have beer spilled on you or if you sit in gum. The Sleaze Factor: Don't Dress Too Sexy It's tempting to dress as sexy as the magazine models, but in the harsh light of day or the romantic candlelight of evening, it rarely works out that way. Sexy has a way of turning sleazy when you least expect it. The artistry of dressing to impress means utilizing restraint, so save the micro-minis and see-through tops for those rumpus-filled evenings at home and opt for looking pretty in public.   Bookmark this beauty articleEmail this article to a friend

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DATING TIPS ON HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOUR DATING A MATURE MAN VS AN IMMATURE MAN

   After meeting and dating different men who

you thought were good guys at first, do you

really know what a man who's emotionally MATURE

looks like?

   Or are you finding that while you think you

can tell a mature man from an immature man, you

don't seem to be as good at figuring this out as

you'd like to be?

   Since I'm guessing it wouldn't hurt for me to

shed light on this for you, let's talk for a

second about what a mature man really looks like.

   I'll start here...

HOW TO KNOW WHAT KIND OF MAN YOU HAVE ON YOUR

HANDS

   Have you ever been dating a guy when one of

those situations came up in his life that shook

his foundation and challenged him - either made

him re-think who he is, what he does, or what

he's most passionate about?

   For example, maybe he lost his job or a

particular sport or activity he's devoted to, or

maybe someone close to him passed away.

   If you've been dating a man when one of these

kinds of situations came up in his life, you

almost certainly watched him pull back from you a

bit once it happened. Men often do this when they

feel their life and significance is in crisis.

   But here's where differences between an

emotionally mature man and an immature man show

up:

THE EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE MAN RUNS AND HIDES

   An emotionally immature man will completely

withdraw without warning. He will completely

avoid addressing the issues he's facing and the

feelings he's going through.

   Not only will he block himself out of his own

feelings, but he'll block you and your

relationship completely out as well.

   An immature man can't admit when he's going

through a challenging time, and he can't open up

and see that allowing the people he's closest to

and loves the most to be there to listen and

support him is the best thing.

   Instead, he wants to isolate himself to try

and make the pain and the problem go away. But

it doesn't work that way.

   On the other hand, an emotionally mature man

will handle things very differently.

THE EMOTIONALLY MATURE MAN STANDS STILL AND LETS

YOU IN

   While an emotionally mature man will still

feel the pain and frustration of his circumstances

and might even noticeably pull back a bit in all

areas of his life, he WON'T shut the woman he

loves out of his heart and mind.

   In fact, an emotionally mature man knows that

in order to have a truly loving and honest

relationship, he has to be honest about who he is

and how he's feeling, even when he's feeling down

about himself.

   And he can't hide away if he's going to stay

close and loving with the woman in his life.

   Emotionally mature men are willing to show

their feelings, and more importantly, they're

able to allow the woman in their life to "see"

them even when they're going through a difficult

time.

   They will avoid the temptation men feel to

shut down and go into "survival mode" all alone

in isolation.

   Have you ever watched a man go into survival

mode? If you have, you know that there's no

talking him down from it. It's simply a matter of

whether or not the man has the mental and

emotional tools inside him to handle the situation

in a better way.

   Mature men understand that their feelings can't

simply be stuffed away or shut off, or else the

relationship and the women in their life suffers

as well.

MATURITY IN ACTION: THE SIGNS TO LOOK FOR

   Now that you're starting to get what I'm

talking about, start looking for signs of

emotional maturity in any and all of the men

around you. Practice looking at all areas of a

man's life, and you'll be able to identify a

man's emotional maturity level:

Maturity Area #1: Work

   Is the man able to handle adversity,

criticism or even intense politics at work and

remain level-headed, relatively calm, or even

compassionate?

   Or is he spiteful, does he talk about problems

instead of thinking about solutions and how to

improve personal dynamics in his work life and

relationships?

   Compassion and the ability to handle complex

mental and emotional situations without coming

unglued or doing negative or harmful things to

other people is one of the best signs of

emotional maturity - and sensitivity as well.

Maturity Area #2: Friends

   What type of people does a man spend his time

around?

   It has been said that you can know all you

need to know about a person simply by looking at

the people they spend their time around. A man's

closest friends and peers are one of the very

best windows into his mental and emotional world.

   Are a man's friends people of integrity? Are

they doing positive things with their lives and

committed to living a good life?

   And are a man's friends capable of being in

mature and committed relationships? Does he have

any married friends who have stable relationships

where both partners are relatively happy and

fulfilled?

   Men spend most of their time with people whose

values they share.

Maturity Area #3: Family

   How does a man handle his relationships with

his family members?

   Sure, lots of people have challenging family

situations, but whether or not a guy's parents

are together is not what's really telling about

him. It's more important whether or not he's on

stable emotional footing in the way he relates

to his parents.

   Fighting intensely with parents, high and low

emotional swings, or completely estranged

situations without a clear reason can be signs of

deeper emotional turmoil that's unresolved and

might mean that a man will have trouble being

there and being present and stable with you

emotionally.

   So you know, there are other key areas of

maturity you should look for in a man to make

sure you're not wasting your time with someone

who isn't capable of the relationship you

deserve. If you have questions are comments on this subject feel free to post