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Why are some women okay with being called Bitch? Label me...I think not!

I was riding the other day jamming Sirius radio and all of a sudden these lyrics hit me

 

 

Now imagine there's a shawty, maybe five maybe four
Ridin' 'round with his mama listening to the radio
And a song comes on and a not far off from being born
Doesn't know the difference between right and wrong
Now I ain't trying to make it too complex
But let's just say shawty has an undeveloped context
About the perception of women these days
His mama sings along and this what she says
"niggas I'm a bad bitch, and I'm bad bitch
Far above average"
And maybe other rhyming words like cabbage and savage
And baby carriage and other things that match it
Couple of things that are happenin' here
First he's relatin' the word "bitch" with his mama, comma
And because she's relatin' to herself, his most important source of help, and mental health, he may skew respect for dishonor

This was different from what I previously heard and the hook began to say "Yeah
I say bitch bad, woman good, lady better
Hey, hey, hey, hey... I was really beginning to vibe with this song. The Artist is none other than Mr. Lupe Fiasco himself. He went even further in the next verse to say "now imagine a group of little girls nine through twelve
On the Internet watchin' videos listenin' to songs by themselves
It doesn't really matter if they have parental clearance
They understand the Internet better than their parents
Now being the Internet, the content's probably uncensored
They're young, so they're malleable and probably unmonitored
A complicated combination, maybe with no relevance
Until that intelligence meets their favorite singer's preference
"bad bitches, bad bitches, bad bitches
[. From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/l/lupe-fiasco-lyrics/bitch-bad-lyrics.html .]
That's all I want and all I like in life is bad bitches, bad bitches"
Now let's say that they less concerned with him
And more with the video girl acquiescent to his whims
Ah, the plot thickens
High heels, long hair, fat booty, slim
Reality check, I'm not trippin'
They don't see a paid actress, just what makes a bad bitch
Now after hearing this my mind immediately went to my girl Trina..."The Baddest Bitch" don't get me wrong . I like Trina, but this is what she was saying in her song Baddest Bitch[Trina]
I got game for young hoes
Don't grow to be a dumb hoe, that's a no-no
See if you off the chains
Stay ahead of the game, save up buy a condo
Sell the pussy by the grands
And in months you own a Benz
Another week a set of rims
See if I had the chance to be a virgin again
I'd be fucking by the time I'm ten
See off glass is my motto
Dick sucking in the auto
Quick fucking 'bout to follow
On the back of the truck
Or when I'm dead ass drunk
But I don't get high though
I never took it up the ass
Often tried but I pass
And from what I heard it ain't bad
I'm a curious bitch who took off to get broke off
From the baby's dad
Cause I'm Da baddest bitch...My Opinion this is a pornographic nursery rhyme about prostitution.
 But realistically Lupe addresses the negatives that derives from the Ebonics Acronyms used to describe mostly African American women. And I can't forget the newest hood anthem sung by women " My Bitch Bad looking like a Bag of Money"...really ladies? have you listed at those lyrics? Hoes on my line, most of 'em 9's
Couple of 'em dimes but all my hoes is hard to find
And I ain't always on the prowl
its just my soda mixed with brown
Got me quite open for a while
So let me in or let me out
And I like my marijuana bright
And I like my window tinted out
Shout out them strippers who hustle
Yeah George you know what this about
I just might throw a big amount....It goes on to say  My bitch bad looking like a bag of money
E’rry time she fuck me she say “can I have some money?”
And I say “can I get a threesome?”
She say “boy, you funny”
But I be like foreal, just pick up that phone call on one of your girls
When I’m on that pill and I pop that perc
Girl I put in that work
Long as she come to me first its 14 racks what I put on that purse
Shit that Birkin bag, make the old dude mad
When I murk through passed in a dark blue jag
Say she like my style but I talk too fast
And I got that drive and she just might crash hold up,
she say she fucking with me the long way
She gon’ ride this dick I had a long day
Nigga look at my bitch you looking the wrong way
Something mean, look exactly just like the song say...I don't know what's so glamorous about this but. Have you ever seen the movie "The Mack? well this is the Modern day soundtrack. this song is about what Pimps would call a Bottom Bitch. A lifestyle within itself which is degrading . Now all of this is my opinion. Hence the reason this is "MY BLOG"...But I must admit I'm with Lupe. just as concerned about the innocent (those watching us) the next generation. We have a responsibility ...musicians ....artist have a responsibility as well . I mean I can still recall D'Angelo's song "Your my lady" ...that was literally my jam. The very essence of a woman's smile her presence her poise was celebrated within the lyrics. Now days we have that's my Lil dip...songs that celebrate a woman who's willing to be a man's woman on the side. Sort of a Mimi and Joceline situation (Love & Hip Hop Atlanta) a whole different topic for a different day. But you catch my drift. They say Jazzy Bitch, Baddest Bitch, even a Bitch looking like money. well Label me? I think not!! After all Ricky Rosey sweetie money is so mismanaged it goes through many hands and can even be counterfeited. Don't compare me to a Bag of money. I'm more of a rare jewel. You just can't find me everywhere..This Chick Unique Oh Yes Honey!!! Miss Kenya Knows...so Label Me? I Think Not!!! Dear Queens, Princess, Virtuous jewel, your treasure let your worth be known and refuse to be anyone's bitch. And refuse to refer to your girlfriends are one another in "Bitch: termanology. People only reverence you the way in which you reverence yourself.

Singles Connecting on Social Media Sites "My very First Down Low Brother Encounter"

Ok True Story, I encountered my First Down Low Brother right here in the world of Facebook. Well this guy started inboxing me and we became Facebook  friends. I'll just call him Sweet n Low. Any who, Sweet n' Low was handsome muscular built with the Idris Elba type of glow honey.  Dark skinned and Single or so I thought. One day out of curiosity I was like let me go look at his page you know view his pictures see how he rolling. He bragged a lot, so it made me curious. So I take a stroll through the photos and I ran across this one photo. You know the ones we all steal from each other. Well, this one said:  Love the one who sticks by you who celebrates you,  not tolerate you that kind of love is for a lifetime. At first I was thinking  with my mushy chick mindframe, awwwww. But to my surprise
Under the photo there was a comment from a man . And I qoute: Y'all just jealous of what we share and you can keep trying nothing will break us apart. In my Scooby Doo voice mmmhuhm? So being me I made a comment my bullshit detector knew something wasn't right.  I was like Sweet n Low, who is this guy and what is he referring to?  He goes, Oh that's an old crazy FB friend of mines..lol
So I was like, well it sounds as though he's referring to you as his man? Sweet n Low didn't respond. So I made another comment one which expressed my disbelief. Oh my! that just doesn't sit well with me. So I went back to the pictures Noticed the man was tagged in half of his album. Pictures at restaurants no faces just "2" sets of man's hands. Oh yes! if something is suspect to me I'm getting to the truth I can't help it the scorpio in me can sense bullshit from a mild away. So the guy says hello to me on  the post. Checking his trap I guess. So I inbox the man I would normally never do this but my gut was dead on I just needed to be sure I was on point. (yeah u may think I was wrong) but this man and I had already had one date and spent frequent moments in text and conversation by phone.  I have a right to know if he is Bi-Sexual."Wrong Chick" to play games with. So, I message the man I was like Hi I was just wondering how do you and my good friend Sweet n Low know one another...his reply:
Why!!!!
Me: Oh my why so hostile?
Him : Why!!!
I'm thinking yeah
So I reply never mind Honeyyy
He went off !!!
I don't want your baby daddy he won't me. I'm like whoa whoa, I don't know this fella in this manner
He shared all kind of dirty sexual details so of coarse I felt the need to inform the other party involved. So I gave Sweet n' Low a much needed update on this.
I text him: Hey Uhmmm you may want to have a word with your man friend he's in my inbox letting all your skeletons out the closet. At that moment I knew without a doubt he was a down low brother. He cursed me out I responded, look Sweet n Low your the deciever in this matter, loose my number. Moments later they blocked me. I guess the cat was outta the bag.  Some say Facebook is for entertainment, but there is some truth in some of the things we browse over on social media . After all Facebook ask us daily: What's on your mind? What was on my mind was is this dude gay? I needed to know. To each it's own but I'm full blown heterosexualAnd deserve honesty at all cost. I tries to keep it Classy but with a K. . You be sure to do your  home work when it comes to dating. You never know whom your interacting with you'll be shocked at what you learn. Especially with the Catfishing going around. I'm thankful at this moment.  Oh if he and I would have been intimate that's when the shit would have really hit the fan. Glad I followed my instincts. You may need to do a little  homework.

Before you get involved with the wrong person or find yourself heart broken. Because honey Sweet "n" Low was on the Down Low. 

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COULD IT BE POSSIBLE THAT MEN AND WOMEN BOTH STRUGGLE WITH SIMILAR TRAUMA'S AFTER A BREAK UP?.....OR IS IT EVEN HARDER ON A MAN?

WELL LADIES THE FOLLOWING IS ADVICE THAT CAME FROM ONE MAN TO ANOTHER AS ADVICE ON HOW TO GET OVER YOUR EX WITHIN 30 DAYS AND MOVE ON....THERE HAPPENS TO BE DATING TIPS AS WELL. SO MY QUESTION LADIES TO YOU IS AFTER CAREFUL REVIEW OF THIS INFORMATION COULD IT BE TRUE THAT MEN DEAL WITH THE EXACT STRUGGLES THAT WOMEN COPE WITH AFTER A BREAK UP? YOU BE THE JUDGE ......READ THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION ...CREATE A CHECKLIST OF COMPARISON....THIS POST ISNT TO PROVE WHO'S RIGHT OR WHO'S WRONG...BUT AS AN INFORMATIVE REVIEW THE KIND THAT WILL BRING MORE COMPARISON TOWARDS THE OPPOSITE SEX....AFTER ALL I HAVE GROWN TO LEARN EVERY CLOUD HAS A SILVER LINING.

What I am going to say is radical.

The truth is that half measures do not work with break up recovery.

You have two options:

The first one is to nurture her memory.

You can go to therapy and spend hours talking about the way she made you feel.

You can spend months trying to understand why she did it.

After a while, all your friends will run away.

They will use words like pathetic and loser when they talk about you.

The second option is to get your full power back.

A break up is a battle situation.

It is a crisis.

You have been invested in this girl or woman for months, maybe years.

After you break up, you keep on giving. You get back nothing.

Your whole mind set needs to shift and be repolarised to one single priority: you!.

There is no soft approach here.

She is in your mind and it is killing you.

It is a self destructive spiral which annihilates your life.

Why? Because she is in your mind.

More! She has power over you.

You are not master of yourself anymore.

What you want is a new mind set.

The old mind set of the victim or loser is killing you.

You want to defend your life, your territory.

How to do that?

You radically shift the way you stand in it, wake up your survival instinct and get over it.

When you are not over it, you are under it, right?

Being under means carrying a useless weight which drains you and takes away your strength.

Why is that happening? You have no power. In fact, she does.

Here are some key mind sets you need to wake up in you. These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are dead!

• You are not a victim, you are a winner. In fact this break up might be the best thing which ever happened to you. Put it this way: you are free!
• She is gone and gone forever. You won't get back together. In other terms don't hope she'll change her mind. If you meet her by coincidence, don't see this as a secret sign that you two are meant for each other!
• You don't need her. This is an illusion. You are perfectly fine with or without her.
• You will meet new girls or women. Right now, she does not deserve the attention your give her
• Alcohol or drugs do not help. Getting drunk is the worst thing you can do. Drinking does not give you your power back. In fact it does exactly the opposite.
• You owe her nothing! A relationship is a temple with two pillars. If she takes off, consider yourself 100% free. Let it totally collapse. It's not your responsibility anymore.
• What she does is none of your business! You might believe you have rights? you don't! Simple as that. She does what she wants, when she wants, with whoever she wants. You have no control over that.
• Get real! There are many reasons she did what she did. Most of them have to do with fulfilling her own needs. Get real about who she is and what she wanted. Don't defend her.

Again, in a break up situation, you need to wake up your power and see this as a battle for survival. Soft approaches don't work! It is a waste of your precious time.

You have the power to force yourself into a new mind set. This new mind set gives you freedom, space and instant recovery. Sure, you won't get all the negative attention from friends and family (poor thing...).

The question is: what do you want?

This is about your own survival.

Do what it takes to express your full power.

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Strategies + Power kicks

The goal of this material is very clear!Give you all the tools you need to turn a break up into a life victory!
If your girlfriend or wife left you, this is the exact set of strategies you want!
In fact, what I give you is much more than a set of strategies!
It is a complete winning system which gives you your life back!
And yes! It is very simple and easy to use!
It literally takes 5 minutes to get it!
It is written in plain and simple language!
It only takes 30-60 minutes to go through this material!
No complex concepts!
It is packed with power and energy!

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Winning strategies for real break up situations!
We could spend days discussing concepts and ideas about break ups and guess what? It would not help you much!
You want practical tools! What you need are very specific new strategies to deal with key break up challenges!
Here are some of the situations I cover in depth and give you new refreshing strategies for:

• What are the key strategies to get your full power back?
• How to shift your mind from victim to winner.
• Why she might take too much place in your mind and how to "kick" her out of it.
• Why a break up is a battle for power and what to do to win.
• What if she calls you? Is it wrong to answer?
• What about meeting her? Is it wrong to meet?
• If you want to see her, how often should you meet?
• Does "No contact" really help?
• Is there a chance of you two getting back together?
• Why you might feel pain right now and how to get rid of it.
• What about guilt?
• How to let go of the dream and create a new thrilling vision for your life.
• How to react if she is dating someone else.
• What to do if she calls you every day.
• How to really get over her. What it exactly means.
• Why anger and frustration are okay and how to make sure they don't negatively impact on your life.
• How to easily make new friends and expand your social circle.
• Why staying away from alcohol and drugs is so essential.
• Is it okay to jump into a rebound relationship straight after your break up? Or should you wait? How long?
• Key strategies to stay healthy and avoid a self destructive spiral
• What about colleagues or team mates? Should you discuss you break up with them?
• Why??!!! How to find answers to your key break up questions.
• Was this relationship a mistake? What you must know about relationship cycles.
• The invisible story. Why you might still dream or think about her.
• How to release emotional pain and feel free again.
• Sexual needs. What are the best ways to respond to them now.
• Should you be friends with your ex? Can it really work?
• Yes! You can live without her! Here is why.
• How to empower your personal base and gain back control of your life.
• Why you want a coherent strategy to win this battle.
• You are not a victim! You are a winner! Here is why.
• And more!

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Answers!

Here are the some of the top questions this material will answer for you:

• How to wake up your power and find new sources of energy in you!
• What to tell her if she says you still have a chance.
• What is the first break up trap and how to avoid it.
• What to do if you asked her to leave but she keeps coming back to you.
• What if you must work with her every day.
• You did exactly what she wanted! How come she still broke up with you?
• What is the best and most direct way to reconnect with yourself?
• What exact role does a break up play in your long term destiny line?
• Why it is essential to remove all traces of her presence.
• How to easily reactivate your social life.
• What are the many sides of a break up and why you need to know about them.
• What are the exact keys you need to win a break up challenge.
• What you need to know about your energy and how she can steal it from you.
• What is the "no contact" rule and what exactly happens if you break it?
• How to deal with text messages and other ways she finds to get to you.
• Why it is essential to never discuss your battle plan with the enemy.
• What are your fighting skills and how to wake them up.
• What did you learn from your break up? - Why you want to find answers before jumping in a new relationship.
• Yes! It is possible to be single and totally happy! Here is why.
• Why she will always call you just when you get your life back on track.
• Why you want to stop talking about her.
• What is a psychic gap and why a break up is an emotional challenge you can win.
• Why did she leave? The exact reasons why women break up and how to avoid it happening again in the future.
• And more!

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More Answers!

Yes!

• What hurts me the most is that she now tells me he never loved me!
• I don't really want to speak with her - What if she calls me or runs into me?
• Give me a reason why I should not ask her back ever.
• I want her to feel what I'm going through, does that make me a bad person?
• Why you have to be very careful when talking about reconciliation.
• Why it is a bad idea to have sex with your ex.
• Why it is challenging to move on before you find answers.
• What you must do in the first week after your break up.
• What if you don't want to completely lose her forever from your life?
• Should you just cut off all contact with her?
• I was doing great until I accepted to see her again.
• How to get over your ex? - Defend yourself!
• Why your friends get tired of hearing about your break up.
• Why a break up is an emotional challenge and what to do about it.
• What you can do if you just broke up.
• Why suffer longer than needed from your break up?
• And More!

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+ Top 8 Strategies to multiply your level of personal power and get your life back

In other terms, what are the key mind sets you need to wake up in you? These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are done!

• What are the top 8 strategies to win a break up challenge?
• How to shift from victim to winner role and why so many men fail in doing just that.
• Why hope of getting back together can keep you stacked. Why getting back together does not work in 95% of the cases.
• Why you don't need her! You will discover exactly how to gain a new sense of emotional independence and enjoy it immensely.
• Why you will meet new girls or women! The simple pathways to reconnect with the dating world and succeed with women.
• How to stay away from alcohol and drugs. How to avoid the self destructive spiral (snow ball effect) and limit your challenge to its real size!
• How to forgive yourself and really move on. Why feelings of guilt or shame can hold you back and how to clear them forever. Why you owe her nothing.
• Why left over emotional, jealousy or controlling patterns could stop you from moving on. Why what she does is no longer your business and how to accept it!
• How to keep your two feet on the ground and shift from romantic dream to reality. How to face, accept and embrace reality and focus on the future rather than the past.

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Key strategies for divorce situations!

These are extra strategies focused on divorce challenges. A divorce has two sides: the emotional one and the legal one.

Here are some extra strategies to deal with more practical and legal aspects if you are in a divorce situation:

• Two sides of a divorce.
• Special strategies for divorce situations.
• Key divorce pitfalls.
• What if you have children together.
• Splitting assets.
• What are your rights?
• Can you be friends with your ex?
• How to relate constructively to your ex.
• And more!

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Key steps to reconnect with the dating world and be successful with dating new women

You'll need these as well to take new exciting dating steps:

• How to ask her out.
• Why women are attracted to confident men.
• What does it take to be good at dating?
• I told her I have feelings for her but she acts as if she did not hear it.
• How to deal with a crush.
• How to connect with a woman you like.
• How to break the ice.
• Where to start with online dating.
• How to be successful in dating sites.
• Trust your instincts.
• Post your profile online.
• What do women want?
• How to connect with new women.
• What if you are shy?
• Should you go online?
• And more!

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The target? Get your life back within 30 days!

Within 30 days, most men are able to get back 80% of their power.Imagine your life without feeling the need to contact your ex girlfriend or ex wife!
Imagine this extra sense of self confidence and inner power!
What I give you here are the direct strategies to make that shift + the motivation and power kicks to take action!
Take action now!