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It's February....and we know what that means...Black History Month

A Moment in Our History not Just Black History but American History Shirley Anita St. Hill Chisholm (November 30, 1924 – January 1, 2005) was an American politician, educator, and author. She was a Congresswoman, representing New York's 12th Congressional District for seven terms from 1969 to 1983. In 1968, she became the first African-American woman elected to Congress. On January 25, 1972, she became the first major-party black candidate for President of the United States and the first woman to run for the Democratic presidential nomination (US Senator Margaret Chase Smith had previously run for the 1964 Republican presidential nomination). She received 152 first-ballot votes at the 1972 Democratic National Convention. She survived 2assassination attempts during her run for presidency. When asked what she wanted to be remembered for she said for being a Catalyst for Change #BlackHistory #Educate #Empower #Impact #Change #AWWP

Stereotypical Stigmas

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 I just recently had the opportunity to listen at this and I want to assure you ladies I had no recollection of the message in which this displayed. Placing all black women into one category is allegorical and asinine. Not all black women are obnoxious not all are combative. It would be as a woman myself taking all black men an posting a derogatory reference of Black Men as a whole when in reality I have yet to have the opportunity to meet all black men. I commend her boldness to project her opinion but I also choose to reject her opinion....As African American women one should stand for the positives of all man kind ....So often we magnetize the negative and fail to celebrate the positive...I declare a time of new vision and new perspective amongst a generation of African decent in honor of their ancestors and all they stood for let's pay homage to the African American heritage. By being a part of the solution and no longer a part of the problem. Chime In leave your comments on our message board 

"Why DO MEN LIE????

“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!” “Why does he lie about the little things?”“Why won’t he just tell me the truth?”“How do I get him to be 100% truthful with me?”“Why didn’t you just tell me the truth?” Questions women ask other women (Wrong Source)
“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!”The fact is all men lie . . . And all women lie too.In fact, I’m just going to say it: You are a Liar.If you’re totally honest with yourself, I bet you can come up with dozensOf lies big and small that you’ve told:One Reason I have discovered is He Doesn’t Think You Want the TruthEven if you don’t do it consciously, women test men with dangerous questions allTime:“Do I look fat in this?”“Do you ever think about other women?”“Do you ever wish you were single?”“Are you still as attracted to me as you were when we met?”“Do you think Kelly has a nicer ass than I do?” The second reason men lie to women is because men are scared ofWomen. Not physically (not usually, though occasionally you hear of a womanGoing all Lorena Bobbitt on her man). Nope, men are scared of your emotions.Emotions are actually harder for guys to deal with and recover fromThan they are for women. We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment only to be totallyFine 5 minutes later. But when it comes to emotion, believe it or not guys are a lot more fragile.A Woman’s emotions are TERRIFYING to a guy. And because it’s so terrifying (and because they are so illEquipped to deal with high levels of emotions), when most guys are confrontedBy an emotional person or situation, they just switch off. (Which,I know, infuriates you it pisses me off as well.) 

So what does this have to do with lying? 

Everything!!!!! From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell women the actualTruth you could freak out on them, flood them with our scary emotions,And push them out into the ocean where the sharks are nibbling at theirLegs (LOL) and it’ll take hours and hours to recover.The fact is, guys are SCARED of your emotions because they’re afraidOf the emotional state you’re going to push them into. And we know from the man’s response to our emotions, him getting pushed out into emotional purgatory sucks, so a guy will do all he can do to avoid it.  Men aren’t women. Well, womenAren’t men either. And to most men, women are beautiful, wonderful,Attractive, necessary, crazy people who don’t make much sense at all.

When a guy does the math in his head about telling the truth or tellingA little white lie, often telling the truth just isn’t worth the emotional drama. And last but not least my third reason the unrealistic expectations we as women place on men. And a lot of guys walk around under the weight of crazy expectations born from fairy tales and crappy movies starring shirtless charming Charlie’s. I call that unattainable ideal women have for men “the myth of Prince Charming.”If you’re like most women, you have a mental picture of the perfect guy who’s out there waiting for you. The guy who will sweep you off your feet, who only has eyes for you, who will ravish you and take care of you and be truly devoted to you and has a great job and a butler, maid the black card with an awesome accent and knows all the right things to say . . . well, if you’ve seen a Disney movie you get the idea. But, I hate to tell you, Prince Charming doesn’t exist for women any more than the Myth of The perfect woman with the perfect body who does everything perfect actually exists for men. Men are complicated and dark and lusty and dirty and occasionally mean.  In other words, we are all human and we all have flaws. Most guys know that if we told us what they really wanted especially sexually, we’d be appalled. So they lie. And pretend to be bigger and better and more like Prince Charming than they actually are, all in an attempt to keep us happy. I mean come to think of it guys are truly AWESOME ladies!!!!And I know you’re asking….So how do you get Him to Tell You the 100% Truth All the Time? You don’t….I’m not saying there aren’t ways to reduce the number of lies men tell you. But lies are a part of all relationships and if you think about it, you’ll realize that you lie to the men in your life, too.  So if You Can’t Get Him to Tell You the Truth All the Time, What Do You Do? Great question, I suggest you 1. “Choose” to assume he’s telling you the truth about the little things even when he might be lying through his teeth. 2. Try not to ask questions you don’t actually want the answer to. 3. Learn the truth through facts about men that demonstrate that you’re actually cool with your guy being a guy. The more you understand and empathize with the man in your life, the less he’ll feel the need to lie to you. I know from experience that it’s best to understand my man and for him to understand who I am and love me for me (with all my flaws on full display). Also, I know to be open and honest with my mate  and I know from experience that when HE DOES  tell me the  truth, I can handle it and won’t freak out.  Ladies, better understand not only your man but the make and mindset of the male species. It creates a much healthier relationship.

Spicing Up Your Sex Life with a little Role Playing

 To my readers, I know that some of you are so "Super Sexually Experieced" that this may be elementary to you. But, to some my question is. For Sexual Excitement with your mate. Do you Role Play?. Full Character? Costume? Name Change? The whole nine the trick is to remain in character during the entire Sexual Experience. I want to keep it Klassy , but sometimes ladies we have to channel our inner freak. Anyway, I heard that a feather duster is a great tool to use for arousal and teasing. 
A great edition to Naughty Maid lingerie, fishnets or some thigh highs and of coarse  the "Stiletto's" the higher the heel the better. Now props are great, dont forget to blindfold him  as you strip him down for a thorough inspection. Remember no Panties!!! Keep the blindfold on men are always told to look...but dont touch. Let him touch intensify the situation with intrigue make him imagine. Tease!!! Taunt!!! then Take care of Business. And Ms.Molly Maid, your tongue is your greatest tool.  Let him see your no gag reflex allow him to tickle your tonsils after the gag order Oh My!!!. And do leave him Squeaky clean!!! remember again your tongue is your greatest tool. I think if a man's woman become the fantasy, it can potentially decrease the beast in him from going on the prowl just my opinion. Ladies, become the spice in his life!!! Mix it up dont let your sex life become too routine. Nothing wrong with a freak in the sheets. As long as you remain a Classy lady in the streets.

You are NOT the Father! I know I have some Maury Povich fans

I find myself on random watching the Maury Povich show. I enjoy the paternity test episodes. Well today there was one guy with three different women whom all were sexual partners and conceived their children at the exact same time. Well this young man had the audacity to imply that the women whom brought him forth were in fact "Whores". I couldn't phantom this, I mean what kind of man has unprotected sex with three women at the same damn time. You are NOT the Father but you sir is what I like to call a "Man Whore". Why is it so acceptable in our society for men to sleep around and indulge in as many sexual escapades as they desire yet their never labeled? But a woman is instantly referred to as a whore. This is another double standard. And it didn't just began , it's has taken place for centuries. It goes as far back as in the story where Jesus announced to the onlookers who were ready to stone a woman to death who had an affair. Now last time I checked it takes two, but the man in whom she performed this sexual act with was no where to be found to be held accountable for his role in this affair. So in the words of Jesus, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. If we began to hold one another accountable I believe Maury would have to find a new subject matter to capitalize on. You are Not the father. But come on fellas You are responsible in being a better Man just as we women are responsible to be better women.Ladies, let us clean up our acts as well Keep it Classy. Let give the men a reason to adore us as treasure.  I guess I'm sick and tired of the "Trash" 

The Lame Dating Game or the Games some Men and Women Play when it comes to dating

For starters, Who puts these dumb ass captions on some of these photos? How in the "Hell" you loyal to someone who doesn't repay the same loyalty to you? Take several seats honey! She, her, me, not having it. Better get yo life! And miss me with the bullshit. Now I'm not a male basher, there are some good dudes out there. And then there are others;  you know the ones the guys that are just so full of game. But honey one must be observant. Know the difference between a guy who has general interest in you, or the guy whose "in my Steve Harvey voice"SPORTS FISHING" (lol) I'm not the kind of chick you bait in, then "Throwback". Very much aware of what I deserve, my motto "Actions speak louder than words with me". And a man who seeks me for long-term taking the time to genuinely get to know me. I want the casual to commitment experience. A the right guy don't mind waiting for the nookie. It's much healthier to take your time than jump into the sack too soon. Intimacy with me, comes "After" I'm in a "Committed Exclusive" relationship..I mean I dont know about you honey but I'm 35! I'm done playing. And this other foolishness I here about the "Open Relationships". What's Classy about that? Nothing Open here but my heart after trust has been established. You better know it!!! So to the men&women playing games. Go play with those who enjoy the games. And to any side eye glances from the female readers, ladies "FYI" Men love Women with Standards,Get Some! So if the guy is unwilling to call,go the extra mile, respect my boundaries. Then I'm not her, and he definitely isn't him. Well not for me, I suggest the player make passage; So he whom I Respect and Respects my Standards in return, can make his way to me. A man with a dream and plan requires the treasure in which I bring. I know my Worth! How about to snaps in a circle! Say it with me! Dont come for me if you full of shit!!! It's that easy, those who truly desire committment,put your foot down. Settle, but never Settle. You get my drift?

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