"Why DO MEN LIE????

“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!” “Why does he lie about the little things?”“Why won’t he just tell me the truth?”“How do I get him to be 100% truthful with me?”“Why didn’t you just tell me the truth?” Questions women ask other women (Wrong Source)
“Why do men LIE????!!!!!!!”The fact is all men lie . . . And all women lie too.In fact, I’m just going to say it: You are a Liar.If you’re totally honest with yourself, I bet you can come up with dozensOf lies big and small that you’ve told:One Reason I have discovered is He Doesn’t Think You Want the TruthEven if you don’t do it consciously, women test men with dangerous questions allTime:“Do I look fat in this?”“Do you ever think about other women?”“Do you ever wish you were single?”“Are you still as attracted to me as you were when we met?”“Do you think Kelly has a nicer ass than I do?” The second reason men lie to women is because men are scared ofWomen. Not physically (not usually, though occasionally you hear of a womanGoing all Lorena Bobbitt on her man). Nope, men are scared of your emotions.Emotions are actually harder for guys to deal with and recover fromThan they are for women. We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment only to be totallyFine 5 minutes later. But when it comes to emotion, believe it or not guys are a lot more fragile.A Woman’s emotions are TERRIFYING to a guy. And because it’s so terrifying (and because they are so illEquipped to deal with high levels of emotions), when most guys are confrontedBy an emotional person or situation, they just switch off. (Which,I know, infuriates you it pisses me off as well.) 

So what does this have to do with lying? 

Everything!!!!! From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell women the actualTruth you could freak out on them, flood them with our scary emotions,And push them out into the ocean where the sharks are nibbling at theirLegs (LOL) and it’ll take hours and hours to recover.The fact is, guys are SCARED of your emotions because they’re afraidOf the emotional state you’re going to push them into. And we know from the man’s response to our emotions, him getting pushed out into emotional purgatory sucks, so a guy will do all he can do to avoid it.  Men aren’t women. Well, womenAren’t men either. And to most men, women are beautiful, wonderful,Attractive, necessary, crazy people who don’t make much sense at all.

When a guy does the math in his head about telling the truth or tellingA little white lie, often telling the truth just isn’t worth the emotional drama. And last but not least my third reason the unrealistic expectations we as women place on men. And a lot of guys walk around under the weight of crazy expectations born from fairy tales and crappy movies starring shirtless charming Charlie’s. I call that unattainable ideal women have for men “the myth of Prince Charming.”If you’re like most women, you have a mental picture of the perfect guy who’s out there waiting for you. The guy who will sweep you off your feet, who only has eyes for you, who will ravish you and take care of you and be truly devoted to you and has a great job and a butler, maid the black card with an awesome accent and knows all the right things to say . . . well, if you’ve seen a Disney movie you get the idea. But, I hate to tell you, Prince Charming doesn’t exist for women any more than the Myth of The perfect woman with the perfect body who does everything perfect actually exists for men. Men are complicated and dark and lusty and dirty and occasionally mean.  In other words, we are all human and we all have flaws. Most guys know that if we told us what they really wanted especially sexually, we’d be appalled. So they lie. And pretend to be bigger and better and more like Prince Charming than they actually are, all in an attempt to keep us happy. I mean come to think of it guys are truly AWESOME ladies!!!!And I know you’re asking….So how do you get Him to Tell You the 100% Truth All the Time? You don’t….I’m not saying there aren’t ways to reduce the number of lies men tell you. But lies are a part of all relationships and if you think about it, you’ll realize that you lie to the men in your life, too.  So if You Can’t Get Him to Tell You the Truth All the Time, What Do You Do? Great question, I suggest you 1. “Choose” to assume he’s telling you the truth about the little things even when he might be lying through his teeth. 2. Try not to ask questions you don’t actually want the answer to. 3. Learn the truth through facts about men that demonstrate that you’re actually cool with your guy being a guy. The more you understand and empathize with the man in your life, the less he’ll feel the need to lie to you. I know from experience that it’s best to understand my man and for him to understand who I am and love me for me (with all my flaws on full display). Also, I know to be open and honest with my mate  and I know from experience that when HE DOES  tell me the  truth, I can handle it and won’t freak out.  Ladies, better understand not only your man but the make and mindset of the male species. It creates a much healthier relationship.

Spicing Up Your Sex Life with a little Role Playing

 To my readers, I know that some of you are so "Super Sexually Experieced" that this may be elementary to you. But, to some my question is. For Sexual Excitement with your mate. Do you Role Play?. Full Character? Costume? Name Change? The whole nine the trick is to remain in character during the entire Sexual Experience. I want to keep it Klassy , but sometimes ladies we have to channel our inner freak. Anyway, I heard that a feather duster is a great tool to use for arousal and teasing. 
A great edition to Naughty Maid lingerie, fishnets or some thigh highs and of coarse  the "Stiletto's" the higher the heel the better. Now props are great, dont forget to blindfold him  as you strip him down for a thorough inspection. Remember no Panties!!! Keep the blindfold on men are always told to look...but dont touch. Let him touch intensify the situation with intrigue make him imagine. Tease!!! Taunt!!! then Take care of Business. And Ms.Molly Maid, your tongue is your greatest tool.  Let him see your no gag reflex allow him to tickle your tonsils after the gag order Oh My!!!. And do leave him Squeaky clean!!! remember again your tongue is your greatest tool. I think if a man's woman become the fantasy, it can potentially decrease the beast in him from going on the prowl just my opinion. Ladies, become the spice in his life!!! Mix it up dont let your sex life become too routine. Nothing wrong with a freak in the sheets. As long as you remain a Classy lady in the streets.

You are NOT the Father! I know I have some Maury Povich fans

I find myself on random watching the Maury Povich show. I enjoy the paternity test episodes. Well today there was one guy with three different women whom all were sexual partners and conceived their children at the exact same time. Well this young man had the audacity to imply that the women whom brought him forth were in fact "Whores". I couldn't phantom this, I mean what kind of man has unprotected sex with three women at the same damn time. You are NOT the Father but you sir is what I like to call a "Man Whore". Why is it so acceptable in our society for men to sleep around and indulge in as many sexual escapades as they desire yet their never labeled? But a woman is instantly referred to as a whore. This is another double standard. And it didn't just began , it's has taken place for centuries. It goes as far back as in the story where Jesus announced to the onlookers who were ready to stone a woman to death who had an affair. Now last time I checked it takes two, but the man in whom she performed this sexual act with was no where to be found to be held accountable for his role in this affair. So in the words of Jesus, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. If we began to hold one another accountable I believe Maury would have to find a new subject matter to capitalize on. You are Not the father. But come on fellas You are responsible in being a better Man just as we women are responsible to be better women.Ladies, let us clean up our acts as well Keep it Classy. Let give the men a reason to adore us as treasure.  I guess I'm sick and tired of the "Trash" 

The Lame Dating Game or the Games some Men and Women Play when it comes to dating

For starters, Who puts these dumb ass captions on some of these photos? How in the "Hell" you loyal to someone who doesn't repay the same loyalty to you? Take several seats honey! She, her, me, not having it. Better get yo life! And miss me with the bullshit. Now I'm not a male basher, there are some good dudes out there. And then there are others;  you know the ones the guys that are just so full of game. But honey one must be observant. Know the difference between a guy who has general interest in you, or the guy whose "in my Steve Harvey voice"SPORTS FISHING" (lol) I'm not the kind of chick you bait in, then "Throwback". Very much aware of what I deserve, my motto "Actions speak louder than words with me". And a man who seeks me for long-term taking the time to genuinely get to know me. I want the casual to commitment experience. A the right guy don't mind waiting for the nookie. It's much healthier to take your time than jump into the sack too soon. Intimacy with me, comes "After" I'm in a "Committed Exclusive" relationship..I mean I dont know about you honey but I'm 35! I'm done playing. And this other foolishness I here about the "Open Relationships". What's Classy about that? Nothing Open here but my heart after trust has been established. You better know it!!! So to the men&women playing games. Go play with those who enjoy the games. And to any side eye glances from the female readers, ladies "FYI" Men love Women with Standards,Get Some! So if the guy is unwilling to call,go the extra mile, respect my boundaries. Then I'm not her, and he definitely isn't him. Well not for me, I suggest the player make passage; So he whom I Respect and Respects my Standards in return, can make his way to me. A man with a dream and plan requires the treasure in which I bring. I know my Worth! How about to snaps in a circle! Say it with me! Dont come for me if you full of shit!!! It's that easy, those who truly desire committment,put your foot down. Settle, but never Settle. You get my drift?

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The Best Detective in the World a Woman

He's her night in shinning armour. She's head over heels in love. The romance, finance, the sex all extraordinary! But as time progress both parties began to become complacent and the guy has become bored and the hunter in him begans to thirst for the adventure of the prowl. And the once sweet understanding Lover his Queen, his dollface. Senses troble is brewing in her home and has know become the detective of truth. Never once communicating effectively her concerns with her man instead she interrogates him with accusations. Now he wasn't cheating but his frame of mind has gone from wondering to acting upon his desire. I mean if your gonna be accused you may as well be doing it right? Wrong, women all ask the age old question in love and relationships. Why men cheat? When a man finds that joy he needs in his life I honestly believe his desire to cheat becomes slim to none. I believe the biggest reason men cheat is because there is always a woman out there whose willing to have a man who's knowingly committed to another. We focus so much on the insecure woman but never hold both parties responsible for neglecting the union from jump. And now, the man begans feeding the woman he clains to loves insecurities with his silence shutting her out and misguided affairs. Or glancing eyes right in the very presence of his lady. I've been able to experience first hand a woman scorned where we were both in the blind about his deeds but I have also been the scorned woman. Now there is one thing I so dislike. The snooping woman who calls and blames the other woman for her man's misguided deeds. Now there are some instance where the sideline chick knows. but the times I'm refering to are the one where both parties are in the blind. My pet peeve is Why do women do that thing? You know the thing I speak of, snooping through a guys things( i.e. phone , email, Facebook) she then contacts the woman and becomes belligerent and makes herself know with the infamous. I'm his woman blizae blizae and then she tells the other woman all their private business. Exposing her man and his weaknesses,how horrible of a guy he is. How he cheats and he's a dog and how she took care of him when he was doing bad how he had to drive her car and move in with her(side eye )I'm thinking, well if he's that bad why are you still with him? I mean you say he's a horrible guy, so are you afraid of being alone? There is a diffrence between being alone and lonely( the analyst in me questions logic especially for ignorance it really isnt bliss)these chicks confuse me. Ladies if this is you don't call the other chick and expose your man's weaknesses to this random chick instead talk to your man if deep down you want your man, resolve it if possible. See why he's cutting up, maybe he feels neglected. And if he's that horrible dont listen to the ratio of Single Men vs.Single Women believe instead there is a good guy with your name imprinted on his heart and it's time to clear the way to make room for his arrival. Lastly ladies, never expose in the light something you have yet to deal with in the dark. Now,that may have flew over some head. Go back and catch it

Our thoughts are "Provoking" and have the "Power"to materialize your desires

One can think themself into a fortune. Even if you have nothing to start with, except the capacity to KNOW WHAT YOU WANT, AND THE DETERMINATION TO STAND BY THAT DESIRE UNTIL YOU REALIZED IT. You may have no money to begin with. You may have little education. You may have no influence. But, if you have initiative, faith, and the will to win. You can have whatever you like

America Approved a resolution to accept openly gay boys as Scouts

Members of the Boy Scouts of America have approved a resolution to accept openly gay boys as Scouts; ban on gay adult leaders remains. What are your thoughts?
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Let's Do this dirty laundry....Kelly Rowland says it's time to clean up

Kelly Rowland comes candid about an abusive relationship she was in almost a decade ago. In the song "Dirty Laundry  Kelly shares with us how "bitter sweet" her life had become behind the glitz, glammer  lights and camera's. In the song she states that the unidentified abuser not only physically but also mentally abused her proclaiming to her that he was the only one who loved her although his love was destroying her slowly. Domestic violence doesn't discriminate no matter our status qou. The statistics still inform us that 1out of every 4 women in America are affected by this growing epedimic. Kelly is blessed to be alive and be as transparent about the experience. This isn't always the case, many women have lost their lives at the hands of the very one who claims to love them. There is help available for anyone desiring to be free of such a detrimental situation. I happen to produce stage play production that bring awareness but also contributes to the financial support of such organizations as Houston Area Women Center ans Bridge over troubled water, located here in Houston. Local safe houses that assist with counseling, group therapy and career counseling to assist the women in becoming self sufficent. Let's not turn a death ear are a blind eye to those whom have lost the power of their own voice. Kelly reconfirms a silent cry truly desires a way out. Remember ladies, love is patient, love is kind, it's not fault finding. Real love protects and never neglects.
Peace and Blessings
Kenya

Kelly Rowland New X-Factor Judge

Yes it's true Kelly Rowland has been hired on as one of Fox's New judges for their show "The X-Factor" Ms.Rowland a former member of Destiny Child has truly amazed me. She's evolving as a performer proving her ability to be a successful Solo Artist. I must admit I truly love her smash hit "Kisses down low"....being a part of one of the most famous female groups. I look forward to the flavor she will bring to the new season of X-Factor. Be sure to tune in.

Love and Hip Hop Atlanta....The Saga continues

I know everyone tuned in to tonight's episode of Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. But I want to just recap with daunting questions from the beginning of the New Season. First and Foremost, how many of you agree with me that Momma Dee needs to mind her business, get a man or go ahead and hook up with Shae herself. I mean the comments she make regarding Shae are very questionable. Momma Dee "FYI" The jury is still in deliberation regarding you. Your actions and comments are very much suspect. And she has taken this whole "Prince" of the South thing with Scrappy waaaayy too far. In the beginning I was upset with Ms.Erica Dixon for such display of disrespect towards her elder. But hey just because your elderly it doesn't grant you to pass go and be as belligerent as Momma Dee has been referring to Erica as "BICTH"...I will never let her live that down (Hooked on phonics). Fast forward, that boy Stevie J is a live pimp if you ask me. I mean I'm not upset with him at all those women allow it ,and the new girl. Let's just call her "Gator Mouth" (Stevie J has serious issues I think he was neglected as a child and he love's whores). Miss Mimi ain't no Saint...He was someone else's man when she first met him. But how long do you actually think MiMi's New Boa will last. 15 years of the same bullshit, there is a possibility that she's finally reached her breaking point. Or could this just be a tit for tat antic to prove a point hmmmm time will tell. And that damn K.Michelle is crazy, but you gotta love her. Now next on the list D.J Tracie Stillz needs to stop with the fantasy of her and her child's father trying to force her hand with this man is only gonna make him fight harder to prove he's King. No man wants to be treated in that manner and trying to pimp him in order to invest $25,000 in his business it's an Investment dumb ass draw up a contract and make sure you get residual returns. You trying to buy you a husband. Go sit your ass in the corner!!!. I'm like damn you're Chris Brown's D.J. ask Chris for the money . He knows your good for it. If a man doesn't want you nothing can make him stay and if he does want you. Nothing can keep him away "Context Clues" Tracie. Okay guys, Do you think Scrappy will marry Erica? Get with Shae, or totally renege on both of their asses for Shiznyeeez lol. Karlee Red, Karlee Red who? she's becoming less relevant as the weeks go by. She's being either removed or replace her and Benzino I never bought them two being a real couple to begin with. Do you guys believe Joseline or Benzo? It ain't no fun if the homey can't have none. I can't get over Joseline's comment "No Neck". Counting down the days til next weeks episode. Again we have to keep tuning in. Please comment and post about your favorite Love and Hip Hop cast member and moments. I would love you to hear your feedback

Mind your business

I was preparing to blog today. And the question crossed my mind. What topic should I talk about today. Well it's one that I deal with daily. Minding my own business (smiles) which is hard to do. Do to the current status of our society filled with Social media and Reality T.V. There really isn't much privacy. I can go on Facebook or Twitter at any time and know the mood and where abouts of others at a click of the button. Well I'm one of those people whom loves knowledge and consume new information by any means necessary. My friends even call me the "Google" Queen. But when is being in someone else's business too much? A dear friend brought a great revelation to me. He informed me how my unwillingness to mind my business was creating enemies. I mean come on I'm Kenya Knows. Ironically my circle of friends have taking this title to the extreme. They really believe Im the go to girl no matter what the situation may be. Which explains why a few of my friends significant others significantly can't stand me. This revelation has helped me to be okay with not always having a solution for other people's problems. Now don't get me wrong. It's very flattering my circle of influence sees me as a very Wise Woman. But how will they develope, learn , and grow from life experiences if I'm constantly autobiographing their lifes circumstances based on my knowledge and life experience. So although Kenya knows. Wise Kenya will apply the priciple of when to say when avoiding getting drunk off other peoples problems. I'm minding my business (giggles)

The Husalette's show talks about Beyonce song " Bow down Bicthes"( part ...

What's all the controversy surrounding Beyonce's song "Bow Down Bitches" Here is Ms. Kenya's unedited review of the song....We left the blooper's because after all Ms.Kenya is as real as they come. Don't forget to share this video

What is it that you want out of life? May cost you a little,may cost you a lot....but it will cost you. Are you willing to pay the price

The year 2013 has shown us just how much our world has evolved as far as technology is concerned. Riding in my car this morning there was an announcement that there will be in 2015 a model vehicle created to fly "Jetson Style" ....it sort of amazed me. And I began to think of the hard work that the manufactorer had to intell in order for this creation to come forth successful. A great price had to be paid for the research, the developer's so on and so forth. And as I thought of this I began to reflect within my own life. What price have I paid or am I willing to pay to evolve and become the best me possible? Thinking over the developement of my own life, the twist and turns that have occured and all the multi-placeted challenges that I have gone through and still going through each one was needed in order to develope into the full potential of what the creator intended for me to be. Now, these challenges are never easy. Sometimes they even involve taking a few lose here and there in order to recieve great gain....Fantasia Barrino winner of American Idol recently released the first hit our her new album "Lose to Win".....this song is relatable in love and even in this war we call life. So, I leave you with this question. What are you willing to pay in order to recieve your great gain? Now, keep in mind it may cost you a little. It may cost you a lot. But it will cost you.

Dating and Dealing with Jealousy....How to overcome this war within

The form of jealousy that has recently surfaced in my life was what I like to call "Romantic Jealousy". I will be listing several useful and practical tips on overcoming jealousy in a romantic relationship.. Jealousy is an angry feeling that stems from a belief that there is only a finite amount of love to go around and that your source of love is being diminished by the presence of another person. This means that it is an emotion that has evolved to protect one's resources, particularly love and nurturing. It is an unpleasant emotion to experience and is very hard to shake. Jealousy can be either rational or irrational. Rational jealousy arises when one's love and nurturing resources are being diverted by another. On the other hand, irrational jealousy is when you perceive your love and nurturing resources to be diverted, when in fact they are not. Similarly, irrational jealousy occurs when you are not really contractually entitled to that love and nurturing. In some ways, rational jealousy is a useful emotion to alert you to the need to communicate your needs to your loved one and remind them that you need their love and nurturing. But irrational jealousy means that your emotions are not based on a fair appraisal of the situation, and that you are wasting your energies. Possibly, this could lead to the destruction of an already existing relationship, or the loss of an opportunity to develop a relationship. And this is where I discovered there was an inward struggle of irrational jealousy taking place within me. I recently started dating this really amazing guy. I would even consider him to be rare, simply because he's a great communicator very patient, kind and understanding. But the strangest thing is I have always wanted a man that could be open and honest with me about everything. And this guy is totally upfront and honest. Upon sharing with me I found myself getting irrationally jealous. It's a very raging sort of emotion as if a volcano erupted on the inside of you. And this problem of mines has nothing to do with him. Once I made the decision to confront the emotion I realized where it was rooted from and immediately began to search out a solution. And in my search I discovered several very helpful tools. [1] Irrational jealousy can poison any relationship. For example, it can ruin good communication between people, causing a downward spiral of unfounded arguments and fights. Clear, sensitive open communication is the key. Talk, express your needs and what you are willing to give. Be a peacemaker. Be a solution finder, not an accuser. Make sure that you are not basing such an unpleasant emotion on insufficient evidence.What I mean by that is jumping to conclusions without knowing the entire story. [2]Irrational jealousy indicates insecurity in a person’s self-worth and lack of confidence in his or her ability to attract and keep a partner interested. A lover who suspects a partner of unfaithfulness without having real evidence of that could literally “terrorize” him or her by constantly accusing and questioning. This could even lead to a self-fulfilling prophet, being suspicious lack of trust, and questioning your partner about his whereabouts in an investigating manner cause unnecessary fighting, conflicts an eventually break-ups of relationships that otherwise had great potential to develop and prosper. Don’t let this happen to you. If you believe that you subject your partner to your jealousy, start working on eliminating it immediately. [3]Ironically, some people may develop jealousy when their relationship is great and they are very happy with their partner. Their jealousy and their possessiveness is a side effect of their desire not to lose something that is very special and very precious to them. And the more precious their partner is to them, the more carefully people guard him / her by being jealous. That concern and fear of loss of someone very rare and special leads people to over protecting it. [4]Eliminating jealousy is not a quick process. Jealousy is a trait of character, a frame of mind and an emotion, and as such – getting rid of it is a gradual evolution that requires work, self-reflection, patience, and persistence. It's okay when those feelings arise for you to take a moment evaluate it. And self examine, ask yourself where is this feeling coming from and is it valid. Afterwards take control of the emotion by reminding yourself of the joy or happiness this person brings you and realize they were created to give love away and they have more than enough available to give. [5]The great news is that the rewards of dealing with and overcoming jealousy will likely keep you free of jealousy for the rest of your life and will make your future relationships much more successful.And know that you are not alone, I'm actually on this journey along with you. You and I are both learning together. Steps to Overcoming Jealousy [1] The first and the most important step in dealing with jealousy is, like with many other issues is recognizing that you have a problem. Most people who have jealousy issues are in denial and refuse to admit that their behavior and perception are irrational and their lack of trust is unsubstantiated by any real facts. Recognizing that you have a problem is essential to your motivation to work on it and to your success in overcoming jealousy. Once you have passed this crucial first step and have recognized that you are jealous, it may be in your best interests to adopt the following, proven-to-be-effective beliefs which will gradually eliminate your jealousy and all of its manifestations [2] If a man or a woman wants to cheat, he / she will find a way to cheat, and there is nothing you can do to prevent it. So, stop it! Stop assuming the worst about him. Stop wondering where he is and what he is doing at any given moment! Assume the best about your partner and his faithfulness to you until and unless you have real reasons to believe otherwise. [3]Keep in mind that the only reason, the only thing that keeps your partner around you is his desire to be with you. Nothing else keeps either of you near each other. And his desire to be with you comes NOT from your pressure, your being jealous or your attempts to convince him to be faithful to you but from your other qualities that make you attractive and desirable.Even if you have to take a moment with pen and paper and write out your greatest qualities.What attracted your mate to you, that is where you shine the best so shine. Your efforts to keep your partner have no positive effect on your relationship. If anything, it might put excess pressure on that person - something that no one enjoys and tolerates for very long. Remember that the best “leash” is the loose one or even better – a total absence thereof. To remove your mind from jealous thoughts, become a little more selfish. Spend more of your time and your emotional and intellectual resources on building yourself as an individual rather than perceiving yourself as part of the relationship. Work on your career and your other goals. Take a class in a field that you have an interest in, learn a new language, engage in a form of creative art, take a dance class, and do anything else that you have or might have an interest in, so that there is more to your life than just that relationship, and so that your life does not revolve around any given person and his faithfulness to you. Pursuing other objectives of your life will prevent you from obsessing over your partner and will keep you in a much healthier emotional state, free of jealousy. [4] By getting rid of jealousy, you will exhibit some of the most attractive qualities in you: your common sense, your confidence in yourself and in your ability to attract the other person and maintain his exclusive romantic interest in you, your value as a wise person, and your confidence in your partner’s feelings. Don’t miss out on such an easy way to demonstrate those great qualities by rising far above jealousy. Fly above the jealousy of that emotion. As a woman I will admit I am an emotional being. But upon learning this I have made a mission to take control of my emotions. And place a guard over my mouth not venting all of my feelings. When I feel this way I discovered journaling is very therapeutic along with prayer. [5] Remember, there is no insurance policy or collection agency for any relationship and jealousy certainly won't help make it more stable. Whether you are casually dating someone or are married, whether you have been together for one month or twenty years, it’s possible that your relationship will end at any time for a hundred possible reasons. Not to be negative, but you should be aware of the reality of all relationships. What does this mean to you? This means that you should enjoy and appreciate your relationships as long as they last but at the same time accept and embrace the possibility that any such relationship might be over one day. And if it is, it will be tough, but you will get over it.It will not be the end of the world for you. Your duty is being the best you can be in a relationship that you want to have. The rest is NOT up to you. The rest depends on your partner and you have no control over it, and whatever you have no control over, should not concern you or be a cause of your anxieties. The serenity prayer is great for this,God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time. [6] The Power of the "I am" affirmations are helpful as well (i.e. I am a great catch, I am unique) you get the picture. As you are successfully fighting jealousy, you will start experiencing tremendous freedom - the freedom to enjoy your love life without the taxing pain of jealousy and insecurity and the pleasure of giving your partner a better, wiser, stronger, and happier you!

Helpful Advice on Dating a Divorcee

Believe it or not one of the biggest  profitable markets bringing in a racking 220million alone last year happens to be "Dating"....all forms online, matching services,mixers and so forth. It seems everyone is after the one thing that cost nothing tangible to receive; Love....I myself experienced a newness in dating. By choosing to date someone recently divorced. Which comes with great challenges.Through a few recent studies of my own. I discovered a few helpful tips for the divorcee looking to date again and tips for the individual who decides to date someone recently divorced. Yes dating is work and part of having the "Successful Outcome" you hope for requires  taking the time to equip yourself with tools which help you to better understand the potential mate

First, here are the tips for  getting back in the game after a long retirement. Let's talk about how this year is going to be different. For those of you that are divorced, or recently divorced, I'm going to give you three dating don'ts to ensure that you have a different dating life this year -- a better dating life.

1. When you go out on a date, don't turn into the "poor me."Please don't bad-mouth your ex. Don't talk about how bad it is being single or about how frustrated you are in your life right now. Because the only people you're going to attract when you do that is other people that are in that victim mindset. Misery loves company!
Have a great attitude about your life. Wake up every single day and realize that you're single and it's awesome. You have an opportunity to finally do this over again and get it right. That's what being single is all about. It's the power of choice. You have the power to do this all over again, the power to meet a great person. Dating is not an opportunity to vent about your past and get angry.

2. Don't just rely on one source to date.Here's the deal: so many people rely on one source to date. They don't know how to be their own personal matchmaker. A lot of people would just put themselves on an online dating site, and that's it. That is only about 10% of the pie.You need to meet people out and about. You need to smile. You need to be friendly. You need to flirt when you're out and about. You need to go to parties. You need to ask your friends if they know anybody that they can set you up with.You need to become your own personal matchmaker.Don't keep fantasizing that the doorbell is going to ring and it's going to be the person that you've always been looking for, and they're going to say to you through the peephole, "Hey let me in, I'm the love of your life. I've got great take-out food and a bottle of wine. My GPS broke, otherwise I would have been here in 2009."Not. Gonna. Happen.

3. Don't spend any time with unsupportive people.It's very, very important that you go out with friends that are supportive of your quest. If you're looking to meet people, make sure you have friends that equally are looking to meet people. Don't go out with that Debbie Downer friend of yours with the poo-poo attitude that always wants to leave early or be somewhere else. (Don't even hang out with them!)You need a supportive group of friends. When you're out and about, you want to have a group of people that are on the same quest as you to meet the opposite sex, to find healthy people who enjoy themselves. It will make each nightly adventure more fun and less of a big, stressful ordeal.These are three quick tips that you can use to have a wonderful start in your new Single Life.

Tips for "The Single Dater" choosing to date an individual who has experienced "Divorced"

From the 'easy score' to 'damaged goods,' the recently eligible are frequently misunderstood. The fact is that nearly half of all marriages in North America end in divorce, so restricting yourself from this pool of singles seriously limits your selection. Herewith, six very large upsides to dating divorcees. 

1. Under (Less) PressureTired of expectations hanging over your head like the Sword of Damocles every time you have a first date? You'll love dating a divorcee. See, they're in no rush to jump back into a heated romance. It's not that they aren't looking for love. It's just that they're not desperate to jump at the first thing that buys them dinner and a movie. Call it, "Once screwed, twice shy," but divorcees take their time getting to know you. How refreshing to talk with someone who actually wants to understand you as a person rather than with Mr. or Miss Hot-to-Trot who would rather swap saliva than stories.

 2. Stop Wasting Your TimeThe formerly married may go slow with new love interests, but that doesn't mean they waste time with dead-end relationships. Divorcees draw from hard experience, which means they know when things aren't jiving and won't string you along until things go really sour. Instead, divorced daters tend toward honesty and offer up a quick goodbye. After all, one really messy ending is usually enough for a lifetime. "I don't have the time or patience to diddle-daddle with guys I know aren't a good fit," says Sylvie A. "I've done that, divorced that. The sting of an upfront turn-down may be hard for some to hear at first, but in the end everyone wins." 

 3. Be AppreciatedThe maritally parted know a good thing when they find it, and they fight to hold onto it. They understand that little gestures have the power to keep a spark alive and they believe that making their partner feel important and special can be the difference between relationship success and failure. Call it sweating the small stuff but divorcees have a way of treating you right. Your main goal is to be sensitive to their triggers and to their need to vent their frustrations. From time to time....Well speaking from experience. Don't limit yourself to the possibilities if he or she has an Ex.The Ex stands for Experience

Kenya Konfessions

Kenya Konfessions Dear Kenya, I married the most considerate and loving man I have ever known"Anthony," a year and a half ago. At the time, I was four and a half months pregnant. While Anthony and I stood taking our vows at the altar, his mother, "Earlene," felt the need to stand up and announce that the only reason we were being married was because I was pregnant -- and that I'd done it on purpose to trap her son. I was devastated. And very much frustrated by hearing this at my wedding, and I let Anthony said nothing in my defense and I let Anthony know it made me feel. I tried to forgive this woman A few months later, Earlene to come to the hospital as I was giving birth. Again, she started in on how I got pregnant on purpose to tie her son down and began telling everyone there that I was a cunning tramp Again, I tried to forgive her. The final straw came when plans were being made to celebrate Anthony's college graduation. Earline made the plans for dinner reservations for everyone in the family and excluded my son and me. I told Anthony how hurt I was. His response was, "I can't control my mother she does what she wants when she wants." Kenya, I was so fed up with having to swallow her emotional and mental abuse with no support from my husband that I kicked him out. I desperately wish he would confront his mother about her abusive and disrespectful behavior, but he's scared of her. I have tried talking to her about it, but when I do she just gets worse. I want to save my marriage, but I don't want Earlene around me or my son anymore and she will never be welcomed into my home as long as she continues her unacceptable behavior. What should I do? Had Enough in Houston, Follow the response to this Konfession located near the comment area of the page. Also submit your questions, concerns and Konfessions. You may even submit the anonymously. I will be sure to reply. Remember Kenya Knows for real